I have a tendency to take things too literal. =\

This post was last modified: 03-04-2011 09:02 PM by LordKhandejifer.

well you are on an asperger's site

well you are on an asperger's site

Friggin' rights bud!

Ducky, you are no such thing hun. Not at all. Nothing at all wrong with having feelings for someone you met online. its how I met my current GF, she was on AFF for maybe all of a month, and we somehow got talking (she never really spontaneously talks to just anyone) and after knowing each other for a few years, we recently hit it off.

*smack!*  

No putting yourself down!  Not on my watch!  

Caring about someone makes you a decent person.  Better than people who think they can mess with people's feelings online!    That's messed up, but caring about people is a good thing.

Do/did you have a 'significant other' whom you've only known online, or only online for a long period before meeting in person?
Yes
How did it work out?  
I don't but I have some difficulties handling it. I mean I feel sometimes like I don't want to talk to her anymore but she talks, but we have a lot of things in common the thing that makes me enjoy our conversation.

Also, was he/she different in person than online?  
Have not met her
Did the other person find you different in person than online?
IDK
How did your Asperger's affect the meeting?
Have not met her yet
Do I ask too many questions?
no

How many times do you have to communicate with someone before it becomes an online relationship?

You both have to agree it is a relationship. Some people start online relationships instantly like on an MMORPG where some kid asks for a girlfriend/boyfriend on general chat. It's kind of funny.

I have one friend I met on another forum who, after half a year, confessed she had a crush on me. We both agreed that staying friends was for the best.. At least I think so. I have a suspicion she still wants me, and I feel a bit bad for rejecting her. But I'm sure she'll find someone better than me.

So, the answer is no.

What does MMORPG stand for?

Massive Multiplayer Online Roleplaying Game

What sort of "relationship" is that if both parties are playing roles from the outset?

One where he shoots arrows and I shoot ice balls.  (Most MMORPG players don't roleplay in the traditional sense.  And even among those who do, there's this thing called 'out of character' chat, if they want to talk as players rather than characters.)

Well, it isn't what you think it is :p

Well, behind every tank character*, lies a priest-like character** willing to heal and remove debuffs*** and DOTs****, a buffing/debuffing character*****, and a spellcasting damage-per-second AoE nuke character******.



*the person that takes damage from spells, melee attackers, and ranged attackers. Uses different techniques or strategies to "aggro" the attackers, and draw their attacks towards them. The living, breathing pincushion. Can heal themselves by attacking another potential enemy.
** Usually A Priest, Cleric, Clergy, Shaman or Druid, or some other spiritually-associated practice.
*** The action or spell used to lower a creature or person's stats and skills
**** Damage Over Time
***** The person that actually casts spells that enhances or reduces a person's stats. Either a spiritually-associated practice or an Enchanter.
****** The Mage, Wizard, Summoner, Conjurer, Warlock/Witch, or Battlemage. May also have a capacity for summoning useful nonplayer allies and useful consumable items and sometimes equipment, either for other players or for their summoned allies.

MMMORPGS, both Scifi and Medieval Fantasy, are pretty damned formulaic.

I had a friend from another state that I met on a not so massive morpg (a mud) who I met in real life after chatting for several years online.

We met at least half a dozen times over the next three years.  It was enjoyable visiting and always seeing new sights since he travelled being in the military.  It was a very confusing relationship though, since he always wanted to be intimate but didn't seem to know what he wanted.  In the end I guess it seemed he just wanted to be friends with benefits, but I fell for him.  It was very difficult always trying to figure out how to interpret and appropriately respond to different situations since he wouldn't just say how he felt and he complained I didn't talk enough.  Then he ended up dating someone he had met after knowing for two weeks.  So, whatever, although sad, in the end it was less stress for me.