I dont feel like Im chasing labels anymore but it was an early thought.  Without a diagnosis I cant get him the help he needs and understanding he has Aspergers means life is so much easier as I understand him so much better.

I can relate to everything you say and feel in some ways that I have to translate the world for him right now to protect him from people misunderstanding him.  Chats with his teacher changed their opinion of him from a disruptive child to a child who was struggling but trying his best and it was them who first mooted the idea he may have ASD.   He is now far far happier. I just need to educate his father next!!!  No easy task.