Some good news I hope...

I'm put back on the schedule at BK, starting next Saturday! Saturdays and Sundays. I hope my boyfriend finds this ok. This will pay the rent. This will leave me time to continue my searching. Although I hate the fact of going back to that hellish place, it's my last resort for now.

The only problem right now is, and I hope my boyfriend realizes this reality, is that I'm not going to have the full rent for the month by Feb. 1st. It's impossible. I would think that a little is better than none at all.

Good grief! this guy sounds horrible. Really. But it's good (sort of news) about the job.

We had a chat the other day, and an odd statement came up that I've been analyzing for days now. He said if I think I'm "too good" for Burger King than I'm too good for him. I sware he's afraid of me outshining him or something. I should be allowed to better myself. Be something better than a fast food worker right? So if I went out and got the career that I always wanted right now or was able to go back to school and take what I wanted to take then there'd be problems? He contradicts himself. One moment he'll call me smarter than Einstein and that I could do anything. The next moment he's tying me down to a dead-end job that will never provide the stimulation I need.

But anyway...

Now, I know he may seem horrible, but I love him. It only seems that way because this is a thread for complaints and the positive traits just don't fit into the thread.

Why doesn't he get himself some better qualifications so he doesn't have to work at Burger King if he is so worried that you will outshine him?

Good thing character assassination isn't lethal this poor bloke would be dead a hundred times over.

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...simply because he's comfortable there. And if he's there long enough, one day, in the future, he can become head manager...and of course that's where the "big money" is. (I wrote this all with a hint of sarcasm).

He was going to college actually for business before he got offered the manager job then he dropped out because he figured he didn't need college anymore. When I first started going out with him I was so jealous because he was in college. I thought "here's someone with some goals"...but...eh...

Maybe his goals have changed? Perhaps his goals are different to the goals you would like for him? Maybe he doesn't need college for what he wants to do? Are you putting your expectations on him?

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I've never had any goals for him. It was the fact that he always brought up the false assumption that I had no ambition. When in fact I have so many goals for myself. And yet, if I brought up the question to him on any career goals for himself he has none. I expect nothing out of him. I'm just afraid he's trying to change my outlook on life and make it his. I don't believe in the "make as much money as you can, buy a house, and live happily ever after life". I wasn't happy working all those hours at BK, even though if I stayed there long enough working all those hours maybe we were on our way to saving to have a house someday....but I was far from happy. And if we bought a house and I was stuck working at some dead-end job, I fear I would never be happy. Just because he's comfortable how he is it seems it should also mean I am as well.

Yes, it seems as if he wants everything his own way and isn't thinking of your needs and preferences. I'm just concerned that he'll get even more set in his ways as he gets older and less tolerant of what you need out of life.

Oh, I meant to add - they can't be paying him very much if he's saying he can't afford the rent. It seems strange that he can be a manager and yet be paid so lowly.