That Remindes Me O My Life Somewhat All My Friends Are Femail (my pc blocks it when i type it correctly)!!! Because I Can't Get Along With Other Guys.
I Carry Around With Me Everywhere A Stuffed Giraffe (Nobody Gives It A Second Thought).
The Only Thing I Hite Is That In My Church I'm Always Paired Up With People With Mental Problems.

I think it's spelled kawaii^^;

Yes.

Yes and yes.

Mind you, I'm not commenting on likelihood nor ease.

Mine thinks those particular behaviors are adorable.

Useful insight from a web page of comments about aspie dating...

Perhaps being up-front about this factor would be useful. State it bluntly; "If you do the 'hard to get' thing and wait until I call/chase you, I won't. I don't get that kind of behaviour. You just need to pounce."  :wink:

I am not sure that my husband is aspie too.  This is a story about another guy who I know was an aspie.  

I did have one aspie guy go goo-goo over me and get obsessed.  I met him the first time and I thought he was really great.  He was not aware of any "dating rules" and weirded me out.  He called me a few times but because of my prosopagnosia I had no idea who he was.  He also said some inappropriate things.  When I saw him again he asked me to take off my shoes and socks (strange but I did it).  Then he was asking for me to be alone with him in his room.  I refused this as I do not like to get too physically close and alone with men who I do not know well.  He was very disappointed.  His friend told me "you don't ask a girl that until you take her out a few times."  He had also told me that he had written me a letter explaining his feelings, which I did not get.  He just put it in my book locker.  It would have been better if he had given it to me personally or just tried to talk to me more before telling me his feelings.  Ands then just have said that he would like to get to know me better rather than telling me that he was in love with me.

He is dead now and alot of people blame me for his death.  It is not fair.  I just need time to feel comfortable with people and trust them.  I do not know that he could understand this.

Sorry to hear that M, though it's sad they blame you in some way.  He sounds like an aspie to me but everything you did seems normal and cautious.

I agree.  Don't blame yourself.  We females have to be careful, there are men out there who are not trustworthy, even though the majority are fine.  
Alison

Often it is good to date people who are from a different society (foriegners) since they will not notice the Autistic's social eccentricities so very much.

I have been very happilly married to a Swiss woman for 18 years now. I'm a High Functioning Autistic... a very similar thing to an Aspie  :grin:

Whilst I am Biologically Autistic, I call her Geographically Autistic since, although NT, she is alien to society also  :wink:

And my husband calls me sometimes alien, since I am both biologically and geographically autistic.  :wink:

Thats a very interesting angle you both mentioned.
I wrote something similar in another post under my previous user name, being a foreigner or around people of different cultures/geographical area the autistic/aspie traits aren't so visible, because language is sometimes a barrier also.

I enjoyed travelling because going out and meeting people was much easier in that setting, I was always looked at as a foreigner (they would interpret my behaviour as shy or just unfamiliar with whats going on)

From my experience it really is easier to be a foreigner in a foreign country than to be a sort of foreigner in your country...
First of all, some "mistakes" in speech can be interpreted as language-barrier even when it´s not the case.
Second, people are often more interested in to really listen to what you have to say, since they are more curious and often also more tolerable towards differencies in foreigners.
And third, it seems to be exotic to have a foreign girlfriend/boyfriend. So I think it might really be easier for aspies/people on the autistic spectrum to have relationships with persons from different backgrounds.

So far, in my own country I was always considered to be such a freak, although I had some relationships there too. Here I may be a bit weird, but not a freak- and that for me is whole lot better.

I'm 20 and i've never had one (i have been told i have a slight case of aspergers or something)

I was 21 when I had my first relationship, and it was quite a catastroph, I must say. I met my husband when I was 32 and he was 26, and he actually never had longer elationships than 2-3 months at maximum before that. He seems somewhat aspie too, although he´s much more capable of doing practical things etc.

Another friend of mine is also married to a foreigner, and although both of them don´t have any diagnosis, they come out quite strongly as aspergers too. Since they work in animationbusiness and are doing just fine, they don´t feel any need for diagnosis, although my friend said after I got mine, that she admits she could be.

I´ve also heard that aspies mature quite late- I don´t mean physically- and I must say that I was very very naive and childlike when I was under 30 years old..Well, I still am actually, and people usually think of me as 10 years younger. I am not saying that you would be naive, but I guess it´s quite usual that aspies get into relationships rather late?

Also, earlier the need for solitude and lot of personal space was always the problem in my earlier relationships, but luckily my husband understands and accepts that as he also needs lot of solitude and space for himself.
And, even though at times I thought I´ll never have a real long-lasting partnership and felt sometimes even desperate because of that, now I´m glad that I´ve had so many years of my own to discover the world and many things on my own- maybe that was necessary to be able to be in any kind of relationship at all.

So yes, I am sure that aspies can get girl/boyfriend, but it might take longer than with others.

Yes.

My boyfriend is an aspie, and frankly, I'm glad he is. Dating and relationships are damn confusing, the games males and females play with each other when neither wants to admit an interest of their own, but each wants to provoke an interest in the opposite party... with Josh it was a relief to be able to drop all that (I was never much good at it anyway) and just talk honestly about what we thought of each other, without wrapping our feelings in layers of confusing subtletly or burying them in the subtext. I guess because I was quite shy about the relationship thing myself, it helped to have him saying "Let's be straightforward about this because I won't get it if we don't" - being straightforward turned out to be a lot easier.

That applies when starting the relationship, what about keeping it going? Well I will admit that occasionally some of his aspie traits frustrate me a little, but what relationship doesn't have its frustrating points? He is still worth it, and treats me like a princess - interesting side effect of the aspie ability to focus strongly on one thing I think - which I love! (though probably don't deserve) And the advantage of being able to approach feelings in a straightforward manner rather than relying on guesswork to decipher the other person still stands.

However, I guess I should attach a bit of a disclaimer here, I am "weird" myself (and still have a teddybear, alright, I admit it) so may not be the best representative of NT girls in general. Also my little brother is autistic - and a lot more so than Josh - so that when he told me he was an aspie, my reaction was not so much to see it as a problem as to think "that's nothing"

Hi Anna, you might be a "cousin".  I'm starting to think my husband Vernu is, as well.  Those of us who are AS prize you guys above gold!  Believe me, it's so nice to have a person you love who treats you well, instead of like a freak because of quietness or whatever.
Alison