The only reason I constantly talk about having my degree, is because I think my degree has become my new obsession. I've been extremely fixated on my degree, to the point of constantly talking about it when in distress.

I always have resorted to talking about my obsession when in distress.

What do you think of someone who talks about having their degree often? My boyfriend is starting to accuse me of being snotty. However, if I observed someone else doing that, I wouldn't be so quick to judge. I would most likely assume they were like me, and fixated on that particular object/ accomplishment. Its not that I look down on others, or think I'm superior. Not at all.

If YOU know (notice) that you are talking about it too much, then you really must be  talking about it too much.

too much, is too much - no matter what the subject.

(aside: sounds like you and bf should break up (take a break) for a bit - seems like you annoy him and he annoys you.. (too much) too often (too soon)...

or yes, as you said you are in distress - perhaps you are not having enouhg down time?

maybe you need some space/time relaxation?  taking on full time bf and full time job is a lot.

(I broke up with a bf when I was too busy to have enough time/patience... I attempted to just take a break....anyway - I asked him for 8 weeks... he could not handle that so I attempted a 4 week break-- he said no - so I broke up with him.) I was working full item and a full time college student - he was short sighted...

anyway just some ideas...

This post was last modified: 10-28-2012 08:57 PM by windy.

I agree Windy, that a break is in order. I might need a month to myself, where I'm not involved with him.

His friends, and him have been egging my nerves lately.

Maybe its because we are opposites in a lot of ways, I'm not sure. I still care about him, but I'm in need of some space.

If the person had just got their degree and all, I'd probably shrug it off and think "graduation high". I've seen friends do it a lot, all of them NTs. (by friends I mean people I knew in high school and run into occasionally who still know my name).

If it was months after the fact and the degree wasn't helping the person find a job (if I recall you've mentioned that a few times now), I'd probably find it irritating if I didn't know it was someone with some form of autism and that their current focus was their degree. For example, everyone I talk to about my writing knows that's my focus, so they just nod and play along even fi I've covered the same ground a dozen times over.

If your BF knows your degrees your current focus, than he's just being a dick. But if he doesn't, he's just having the classic NT reaction and probably thinking 'narcissist'. Not trying to be harsh, but my sister has pointed out I sound a bit narcissistic at times, as well as my dad, and she's an NT who loves us both. So, just a few thoughts. I might be completely off-base, but there you go....

I talk too much about having worked overseas for most of the past 15 years. I'm always relating stuff that happens here to stuff that has happened in some far flung place I have worked. I'm sure that it comes across as bragging.

Try to be conscious of it and catch yourself when you are doing it as early as possible and then change the subject. At least that is what I should do.

Make sure you catch yourself on how much you talk about this or that..... its better to be a bit cautious...... than not cautious..... try thinking of some other things to say