Occasionally, when I go out, I have men stopping me to speak, and ask for my number.
I usually just walk off and ignore them. I've been advised not to do that, because that particular man might get offended. Instead, I've been advised by my peers to give a fake name and number.

When I tried this, one man called, then confronted me later about giving him the wrong number. I just shruged,  and walked off.

these days, it seems like ignoring them no longer works, because some men are aggressive and feel entitled to attention.

Today, I was walking from the library. I was dressed modestly, yet attractive. I hear someone saying 'excuse me', and asks my name. They ask to make small talk, I made simple small talk. They ask my number. I refuse, or ignore their request. They don't seem to take the hint that I'm not interested. They are aggressive, in begginf for a number. I then gave them my father's number, and a fake name. Not sure if this was the right move. I figured it would keep them off of my back. This person happens to live on my street.

I've no interest in meeting random men off of the street. I've always had annoying experiences with them. I've no interest in conversing, and the aggressiveness. I dress conservatively, especially when I'm alone, so I'm confused.

I ignore, but then I feel they might get too aggressive if I don't speak or give a number.I've heard many of these guys turning 'crazy' if you don't respodn, or if you give them wrong information.

So, I'm confused as to what's the best way to approach this. One thing, I do carry pepper spray around.

I hope this doesn't sound ridiculous. Any pointers, or experience would be appreciated to my ear (or eyes for that matter).

Make up a boyfriend? Say you are already seeing someone?

This post was last modified: 08-16-2012 06:33 AM by Genesis.

Don't talk to them in the first place if you don't know them.

Tell them that you don't give out your number because your husband monitors your phone - some boyfriends and husbands really do that. Tell them that your husband is on steroids and the last guy that called you, your husband broke his arm and gave him a mild concussion.

I know you are probably very bad at lying, so practice beforehand so you can make it convincing.

These guys sound like complete jerks.

If you have any rings, you could wear one on your left ring finger when you think guys might be asking for your number. People do check for that, and it'll lend some credibility to the husband story.

Additionally, if the ring is unavailable, just thank them politely for their interest, and let them know that you are currently spoken for - i.e. have a boyfriend. When it comes to "locals", i.e. the guy who lives on your street, who would know you do not have a boyfriend because observationally they never see you with him - let them know you are spoken for also, and if they question - tell them to speak to your dad about it. Make sure your dad knows this may happen to him. Ask him to assist you by letting any curious men callers know that he is involved as to why you are spoken for, and it is none of their business. They should get the hint from him. If they persist after your once dad has established a communication with them, tell them your dad would be upset if you continue talking to them - so would they please leave you alone.

Mike S.

This post was last modified: 08-16-2012 09:12 AM by MikeSilva.

I had friends in college who gave out the "rejection hotline" number, but I don't think it is very nice.  I think guys get the idea just fine by a fake number if you choose to go that route.  

It is OK to say no.  I would just smile and say you're concentrating on your career or school for the time being.  A guy who won't leave you alone is kinda creepy anyway.

I likethe married idea. It should be easy, because I'm always wearing rings on the traditional married finger.
They can't really argue with that.....

Yeah.... creepy..... um.... oh look a group of 94s at my table....