I was sitting at dinner not saying a word like usual, just thinking about random practical things. My mum made her regular criticisms towards my eating style, 'dont put so much food in your mouth'... ect.
Anyway, i begin to pay attention to the conversation as my mum started telling a story about a teen. He apparently ruined an important landmark by spray-painting on it, and the court decided he didnt have to go to jail, just have a lot of therapy and pay lots of money to have it renovated. My mum goes on to mention he was diagnosed with aspergers, then said something like; "Apparently thats what people with aspergers do." Immediately making them criminal.

Im not diagnosed with aspergers, but i suspect i have it, and if thats the case i imagine my father does too.
Anyway there was a mention towards one of my friends sisters who my mum just said had aspergers. My mum really doesnt like her much, apparently she is a rude kid, this is because she doesnt make an effort to be friendly when our family comes over to dinner. She rarely smiles and often goes off on her own, in quite a lot of ways i can relate to her, the only difference is that i try hard to be friendly to people. My mum seems to be very oblivious to the similarities - had pointed out, back when i was much more depressed/angry, that i was acting like her and how bad and rude that was.

So now i realised my mum (and possibly my dad) thinks that people with aspergers syndrome are rude and likely to commit criminal offenses.
Pretty ironic, there goes my plan to ask her about my childhood in relation to aspergers...

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And why in the world does my computer keep suggesting that I should correct Aspergers with the word 'supergrass'!!!

There's always a first start to anything.... Even if it means convincing your mother, that aspies don't fit the general stereotype.

Oh, my.
I haven't told my parents so far. My mother got interviewed via phone (without telling that it was for an autism dx).
On the other hand: why not SUPERGRASS. Even if it's a band name. Your computer must be a fan .

Oh boy!  About your friend's sister; the poor girl is nervous.  In times past I'm sure she's tried to be friendly only to be shooed or bullied away.  So now when she's around people she clams up even though she might want to talk.  She's nervous.  Rejection has conditioned her to be like this and it's not voluntary.  I'm the same way in social situations especially if I'd like to be friendly with somebody (especially an attractive member of the opposite sex who is possibly available).  You want to be friendly; there are things to talk about as possible conversation starters, yet there is a social barrier.

Rejection and bigotry can be very demoralizing.

This sounds like a case for C.L.U.E !

Civilization needs to Learn and Understand us cause were not their Enemy! ( or "cause were their equals not Enemies !")

I dunno, I just like playing around with words :/  

Wow... Maybe it was just a passing comment. Good luck!

I never told my parents about my diagnosis.  I refused to let the psychologist interview my parents about my childhood.  Instead I brought in some old school projects/photos and some stories my mom wrote about me as a child.  I answered most of the questions about my childhood myself.  

It would have done me harm to have my parents know my diagnosis - this is what I made the psychologist understand.

Unfortunately, GREAT advice. I made the mistake of telling my family and friends as if I had uncovered the Rosetta Stone for Mike Silva.

Instead, I was to learn that the last thing the wanted was for me to have an "excuse" for why I am the way I am. That would mean after all these decades I wasn't being "difficult". And that it possibly could have been their behaviors that contribute to the way I react.

And the "work history" I amassed was like a giant foot print for being an Aspie. And the childhood stories recalled were so much more clear to me and understandable. But to my family, I am just the "cleaner" - to be called in crisis, but not for much else. Like I said - huge signals of having Asperger's.

So I agree that finding out for yourself is good if you need Rx's to get through, or just to understand yourself and know why you are you. But that is as far is you need to go, in my opinion. Know for yourself, and keep the information to yourself until you are comfortable enough with another to inform. And any one you are comfortable with probably is aware of it, just hasn't a name for it.

Good Luck, and you are not alone.
Respectfully,
Mike Silva

Surely 'psychiatrist'. Only a psychiatrist can diagnose you. A psychologist is a theoretician, not a medical practitioner.

I'm pretty certain a psychologist can make a diagnosis. Only a psychiatrist can prescribe medication, though.

I was diagnosed by a psychologist

It's actually gotta be a psychologist that diagnoses you if it's not a mental illness.

But man, your mother is terrible. Or that part of her is. It was actually HER being odd and inappropriate, likening eating the way you do to being a criminal (or "criminal") that spraypaints statues. I think she probably thinks there's a connection, that curing the minor traits of AS will cure the AS and thus the bigger traits... I think she meant "We must niop this in the bud."


She is dead WRONG. That was abuse, and if she does it regularly-- oh my. I know a lot of Aspies who have had their parents say terrible TERRIBLE things about them and I honestly don't know how they survived, but I guess that should prove to me that Aspies aren't as wimpy as many people say we are.

Especially when an Aspie gets shot at almost point blank by a mentally unbalanced drunken man... Well this happened twice actually, and like I said before, I'm very lucky to be alive to this day...

These people who makes assumptions about us based on stereotypes needs to grow up and stop wanting to cure us!

My mom seems to have a negative view on AS too. She says they are selfish people and only care about themselves and she acts like every time they do care about others and think of others, it's always about them and how it would effect them if they don't do it. But I always thought "isn't that what everyone does?" Also why is it that when an aspie is nice and courteous of others and caring, mom always has to assume it's all about them than about because they are just simply nice people and they like to make others feel well and treat others the way they like to be treated?

I think your mom has her definitions of psychopath and aspie crossed.