So I'm on the wp channel, and someone is complaining about someone working at reception not being nice and polite enough for them, even going to say they should get fired. They handed the person a card, and the person responded back explaining they don't know their pin code.

Apparently this was a "douche like comment" and the person was the rudest person ever, they're wondering why they had to be such a dick as a nurse. "yes I can't dial your pin info for you, I don't know your password". That is the comment that deserves an up in the unemployment rate. They were talking with someone else from another country as the person explained thats nothing compared to what they get, they explained in America there's higher standards and you're more open and social and you're supposed to be nice and polite. FTR, that's just so you get more customers. It doesn't actually mean you deserve for your arse to be kissed.

There was something the person said to me that I said back with " You werent treated like cattle, you more expect people to be perfect and think of every single way a simple sentence could affect you as if the public is queen. They're the public as well :p
darkmatter: it's called stress, learn to empathize and sympathize or gtfo *shrug*"

Didn't mean to include that next line. Altho I don't think you even need to be stressed or have an excuse at all. They went on to talk about America, and I said that maybe people just need to stop being so stuck up.


This reminded me of all those times people in the autistic community talk about being yelled at or lectured by someone they think is an NT, not realizing their comments are offensive, sometimes saying people should get over things or not be so stuck up.
So yeah, it annoys the *** out of me to have someone come in the Wrongplanet room and fit that description and act like that. I'm thinking "Yeah it's clearly not specific to NTs, not that I didn't know that already." I just want people to refer back to that conversation every time they act like its something only we do. A lot of timespeople complain about others being overjudgmental, I know that you can totally run into an autistic there that would be hard-*** about the same thing. I see people in the autistic community complain about some of the simplest things in being too rude, or not polite enough, etc. And its parallel to some situations where the other end is complaining- about being told they were rude. (For example, being too quiet and "stand offish". Sometimes the people in a site automatically side with the member too. If you complain about someone being too standoffish, you may have 1 or 2 people that go "it's okay, they're just a douche. I bet they were judging you, that damn NT". If you complain about someone like that person complaining about you being too quiet and stand offish, those same people might go "its just people and their social norms acting like theyre entitled to things, they just dont get that not everyone lives to talk to others"

That person who said the oh-so-offensive comment (the nurse and the card) could've been autistic, even.

There was no nasty tone or face, the person was just explaining they needed the code or whatever. You can say that and not really think someone is going to get an attitude. I've had something similar to me and I just carried on.

yeah the thoughts I get from reading your rant is that people (in general) want people to be nice and understanding to them but tend not to translate that to being nice and understading towards others...  I imagine (don't you?) that the same complaining person would complain bitterly if they lost their job or had a complaint lodged against them for answering (truthfully) I do not have your password. (or similar )

I do not think it is an autistic or NT thing though - like if I ask my teenaged son a basic question and he answers it snarkily - I try to just let it go to a point.

If I were to answer his basic question in any way close to snarky - wow, I am all mean or rude..etc.,  (he is a a teen, the world revolves around him right now - to a certain extent he does not realize his perspective is skwewed in his favor many times = immature)

the treat others as you would be treated thing - needs lots of practice.

As a parent - in general - there is a fine line betweeen letting some stuff go - age appropriate snark and making sure my kid/s do not stay stuck in the "me, me me" mindset.  Offended by others, and yet offending others...(but not noticing this same behavior does not make them horrible) I do think (do not kill me) that it is MORE important (harder) to make sure my very aspie (routine/habit) son makes it out of this phase before it becomes knee jerk (pun unintentional) in his (over reacting) responses.

Yeah, I could imagine my son talking about what some random person at a store et6c., said to him (as if it was personal)... and not letting it go.

Letting things go seems to be VERY hard.

This post was last modified: 07-13-2012 04:18 PM by windy.

There are bad apples in every barrel mels. Plenty of spesh tosspots, and plenty of NT ones.

Reminds me of the noxious toe rag I had to put up with after I had the second hospital visit to the ER, after the second of the two myoclonic seizures I had just of late. This woman and her b/f or husband were there after she somehow injured her toes and foot. I overhear her complain to him about being thirsty and having nothing to drink. I had brought a big bottle of cherry coke with me, so I go over and offer her some. She asks for a cup...I didn't have one, as I just drink it out of the bottle usually, but I did manage to hunt a couple down, one each for the b1tch and her partner.

Do I get a thank you? no. Did I buggery; instead she starts asking for a fag*, and when I said I had none to spare, she starts calling me a liar, telling me 'get your fags out'

I did have some smokes, but only maybe 4-5 to last me  about 8 hours.

* Whats more, whats bloody well more....her other half later pulls out a pack of smokes and starts offering everybody in the ER waiting room one. He was damn rude when I took one, although unlike those two, I knew the meaning of the words 'thank you'

The b1tch even threatened me at one point to hit me with my own cane if I accidentally touched her injured foot (I didn't even come close at any time at all), although not that she would have stood a chance, especially in the state she was in . Kept asking me for my cane to get up and walk about with, likewise wanting to try on my shades (after my telling her no, sorry, I'm spesh and do not  like the bright lights in the ER) Had to put up with that miserable cow, her big mouth and raw sewage-level IQ for the best (or should I say worst) part of all night and to about 6am the next day.


Oh..and did she even DRINK the coke? no. Took a couple of sips and left it, complaining it wasn't fizzy enough.

This post was last modified: 07-13-2012 06:23 PM by Lestat.

The biggest reason I have issues getting along with some personalities, is because I'm always met with people who jump all over me for so much as looking at them wrong. But these same people don't want to make an effort to understand why I feel as I though, or react as I do. People expect you to make an effort for them, but feel they can tell you off the minute you unintentionally slip up. There are too many of these types of people in my life.

That is why I choose not to deal with too many people.

I know that feeling all too well. I don't take that kind of shite from anybody. If people are going to try and use me as a human doormat, then they better be quick at running like hell. Because they are likely to get a slap for their efforts

These people in my life who act this way are odd to say the least.
Because they manage to be failures in their endeavors, yet want to pick on me for not kissing their asses. They want to stick their noses up in my face, and act better than I. Failures at life. Yeah, very odd indeed.