Are anti-bullying campaigns just hype?  Those types of programmes that are supposed to be in schools - are they actually doing anything about stopping bullying?

Were you bullied, if i can ask?

They are. As I've said before schools are suppost to be "stop bullying" and all that when they do nothing about it.

In short:

All talk, no action whatsoever

Are you talking about verbal bullying of physical bullying?

Both. All kinds, that includes cyber too.

This post was last modified: 06-27-2012 08:57 PM by Some_Bloke.

Well, i have beeen bullied once by a teacher, the only teacher that bullied me in my lifetime. We said thatto the principal but i don;t know what happened since thne to him, it is also a long story to tell.

Can i ask something? I have been bullied in a supermarket by the owner and cashier of the supermarket. Can i do something?

This post was last modified: 06-27-2012 09:05 PM by Kaiadas.

My eldest son went to a Catholic primary school and was bullied badly. I spoke to the school several times about it and nothing was done.
Then,one day I received a call from the School Head demanding my immediate appearance at the school. I arrived to find my son in the Heads room with him and the School priest. I was informed that my son had "attacked" his bully and left him with marks to his neck and I was asked what I had to say. I shook my sons hand and told him, "Well Done"  
I refused to back down to the demands to make him apologise on the basis that the situation would not have arisen if they had done their jobs properly in the first place.

This post was last modified: 06-27-2012 09:04 PM by cynara.

@Kaiadas

shop elsewhere

This post was last modified: 06-27-2012 09:04 PM by skyblue1 .

So maybe we need a definition of bullying too.

Might be a little extreme, but here it goes:

Normally a group of individuals who deliver physical, verbal or cyber abuse to someone they see as "inferior", "retarted" ect. It is currently a case that school's do nothing about and can result in depression, paranoia and in some cases the individual or individuals being bullied can take their own lives. Despite all the the school's and politicians do nothing whatsoever and come up with fake, hype anti-bullying programs to comfort the parents or direct them towards their school.

Only there was a case that I know about where a coworker accused another coworker of bullying.  This person was constantly insulting this person and telling them to stop this or that or do this in the rudest possible way.  It was said not to be bullying because they were "telling someone how to do their job".  To me it is bullying because someone can be polite in correcting but also it is not their job to comment because the supervisor is supposed to do that.

At the elementary level, I have heard some positive stories from my son about using anti-bullying advice.  He was bullied last year, and another child helped him find an adult to diffuse the situation.  This year, my son got an adult when another kid was being bullied.  

I have my doubts about how well it works in upper grade levels, though.

Most of the bullying happens when adults are not around.  Even the supervisor on the school bus was an adult but the kids did not care.   Some children are never taught to respect other people or be obedient.  There is also not much that can be done as punishment to teach because punishment really does not teach.

Anti-bullying programmes usually try to stop people bullying by telling them why they shouldn't, and trying to encourage them to empathise, which doesn't work because

1) The adults involved usually aren't given as much regard in terms of how young people should behave socially as their peers and
2) Bullies are quite different people to victims, so asking them to put themselves in their shoes will not make them feel the way the victim does (even assuming they choose to do that).

A lot of responding sensitively to others involves unlearning the idea that "you treat people as you would wish to be treated", and trying to treat people in such a way that everyone feels at least sufficiently comfortable that you aren't diminishing their potential.

I am sooo tired of hearing kids in the pool calling oldest "weird" when he isn't within earshot.  He's just trying to be friendly.  Isn't that a subtle form of bullying, to be intolerant of someone who is just a little quirky?  Little frickin......argh.

I'm so lucky he has a handful of really good friends, including at least one other confirmed aspie