I believe I'm an Aspie.

I know most people say don't diagnose yourself with it (just like don't diagnose yourself with other things) and stuff like that, but when I checked the symptoms for it, most of it matched me. I even took several online tests (the ones that give 50 questions and such) and scored a 39. I took these fun tests on the forum as well and scored very high.
What if I do have Asperger's Syndrome? What am I supposed to do? I don't wanna tell my mother because ever since I told her (at the age of 13) that I was transgender (because I have more interest in being a guy, than... what I am now), she was supportive at first. Now, she's just always negative about it and thinks it's in my head or acts like I must be perfect and doesn't understand why I feel this way. Her doing this makes me feel uncomfortable talking to her about anything else. I really just want help, but I don't know what to do.

Oh, by the way, I'm not saying being an Aspie is a bad thing. I just don't wanna... like... I don't really know how to explain. lol

One of the problems from self-DX is anxiety  from not knowing for sure.

So speak to your doctor, so that you know for certain.

It could be something else, entirely.

This post was last modified: 06-05-2012 08:30 PM by skyblue1 .

Well, actually... I believe I'm positive about it. I'm just afraid of talking to people about it because they often don't believe me when I tell them something, not because I lie... just because they're basically in denial. Does that make sense?

Of course

(some of this might not be helpful)

you say your mum thinks that you being trans is "all in your head". I say a lot of things are "all in my head", that doesn't stop them being real (where else would "depression" or "short sightedness" be?). if you broke your ankle, no one would dismiss the problem as "all in your foot" and therefore not real.

ok, back on topic.

self diagnosis is fine on here, and I'm not sure what use an official diagnosis is irl after leaving education. as for coming out, well, I can only speak from personal experience. I'm much more comfortable being out, even with a few bad experiences. if hiding this knowledge feels wrong, tell them and they might surprise you. if not, no one has any "right" to know these things.

good luck

I'm in a similar boat. For my own good I don't need an official diagnosis. But in order to have a good relationship with my therapist (who is helping me transition to physically male) I would rather have a diagnosis. My mom is on board but I want to tell my brothers which is another thing and I'd rather have a professional behind me when I told them... From what I've heard its a hit or miss whether a doctor will even know what to consider when diagnosing Asperger's/HFA. I have the impression many assume that to have Asperger's you must exhibit super disabling low functioning symptoms...I find it similar to getting a transgender diagnosis--some professionals think you have to be a total macho man from birth to be transgender and if you are the slightest bit femme at any point in life than you must be lying. I hate that.

I don't have much advice... I wish I could meet Dr. Simon Baron-Cohen and get his feedback.

I did the "Wired AQ test" in 2002 an I thought nothing of it. Only when my son got his dx at age 3 in 2006 (!) did I look into it more deeply.

Apart from my wife (obviously), I've only told it one friend from pre-school (i.e. I know her for 36 years now; she's a M.D. now); not my parents nor my brother.

In your case, you have to consider in which way your two "issues" might interact (in the minds of your family, e.g.). I'd say let them "get over" your being transgender before you let them "tackle" your autism.

Ahh. That makes sense. I suppose I shall wait then until I'm much older...well not that much older, but soon enough.

How old are you? ( I think this makes a big difference to how you should approach it, which is why I am asking.)

I am 17 years of age. Birthdate is May 2nd.

I would wait until you move out of home. Getting an official diagnosis is usually useless at best and as far as your family relationships go: Those who mind don't matter and those who matter won't mind.

Haha, I heard that phrase before. It's true.
I probably won't move out until I'm in my 20s; due to the fact that I want to move when I'm absolutely ready and save money on my own house. I want to move right when I turn 18, but I know that isn't the best idea. Thanks for the tip.

It does help to be out of the house (I am 23 btw)...When I tried to move back in a few months ago, my mom reversed support for me being transgender. But then I moved back out, and she was more likely to hear me out. funny how that works...

Hmm...
Parents will be parents... especially when they tend to take advantage of their child/life.
My mother and I used to be close, as I said, but lately now I just can't stand to hear anything that comes out of her mouth because she doesn't understand anything about life and she goes into the wrong direction sometimes of things, but if I were to try and tell her that, she would just tell me this: I'm older than you so that means I know more than you so you can't tell me that I'm wrong or right (same as telling her what to do just because she's my mother). In my opinion that's just wrong because we're all humans just different age and happen to be related without a choice. It makes me so mad when she says that that it makes me want to punch something... but usually I just sit there quietly while she rants about things (sometimes I think she's going through a mid-life crisis).

I suppose it's best just to wait until I'm older to see help, although that's going to be really tough for me because I can't stand talking to people on my own. I always ask my mother to do it for me because I just can't. I can't stand looking at someone's face either when I speak to them. I get way too nervous. So, yes this is going to be challenging for me.