Yes! I get this nearly all the time. Also people saying they understand some things are not easy for me but then making unreasonable requests based on doing these same things.

For instance, I am extremely nervous about making phone calls. Then something goes wrong at my place and I mention it in conversation. So somebody says "why don't you ring so and so to come and fix it?".

I'll usually fret about the cost and then say "I'm very scared about making calls to tradespeople etc. So then they'll say it will cost a lot of money and I should call somebody asap.

This means they obviously don't believe I have any issue making phone calls or am just a little nervous and that I don't worry about having enough money to cope with emergencies.

I can understand they can't give practical help but I don't want to be told something is expensive (I'm not dumb - I can figure that one out myself) or given unwanted advice which is cheap to give out. I also don't like it when they say "can't you get a male relative to help you out?". My family is all very busy and some of them have similar issues to me in dealing with people and organising themselves.

This post was last modified: 02-09-2011 05:38 AM by Pakrat.