...people think that I have ALL the symptoms of a disorder even if I do have the disorder but don't have all the symptoms. They then treat me accordingly (like I have all the symptoms). For example, they might assume from my diagnosis that I have a problem with loud noises when I actually don't, and then treat me like I have a problem with loud noises without asking me. I know my mom used to be like that and the guidance counselor at one of my high schools. Don't know if anyone thinks that now.

Oh yes, I get that with my son. very irritating. NO, he DOESN'T need pictograms in order to know what's going on; a list will do very nicely, thank you. And then they forgot to give him what he did need.

That's not as bad as when people treat you like you have symptoms that nobody has. I've gotten that before.

Some people also seem to assume it's rude to ask if you have certain problems. They don't seem to realize that asking is far better than assuming.

asking isnt considered polite.

when my mom gets all psycho.

when she yells at me and hurts my ears.

when people assume the worst of me.

This post was last modified: 02-07-2011 03:24 AM by Duckfetishgirl.

This is why explict communication is so important. It seems as if a lot of people lack these skills. Why is it so hard for some to understand? How hard can this be.

"I don't mind loud noises" or
"the list works better than the pictograms" and
"i just want to remind you that I need the list and not the pictograms"

If people would speak more explicitly than there would be less of a problem.
Why assume things? Asking is always better when clarification is needed.

I *hate* sudden loud noises!  But I agree, it's a pain when people assume things which aren't true.  I can't tell you the number of times I've been accused of being "slow" or an idiot, to my face and behind my back, simply because I'm quiet and prefer not to join in a conversation that's not work-related.  They seem to equate "won't" with "can't", which is not the case.  My lack of interest in their lives outside the workplace is no indication of my level of intelligence.  It may say something about my taste, but not about my IQ!
Alison

My mom yells at me too much. I feel like crying.

I hate it when I'm the only one in my entire family who can see both sides of a darn argument. I've played the family therapist so many times, I'm about ready to knock heads together (figuratively. Not to literally yet).
I also loathe people ignoring what you say, directly to them, or even pretending not to have heard you later when they do the same dang thing. That's actually my greatest peeve.

people are annoying

when I remember or think about unpleasant things over and over and OVER!

I Hate It When...

- I have to state simple facts over and over again until I begin to shout really loud (and am "morally disqualified" because of shouting);
- people think that my statements are indirect requests (like in this extreme example - Me: I like the colour of this item - Other person: I cannot buy/gift you this item);
- I am supposedly the only person who must do X, Y or Z while others ignore the "obligation" and get away with doing so (happened so many times when I was employed);
- people will pretend that they are objective and that I am subjective (at work again);
- etc.

Sudden loud noises are evil.  When the boys are getting particularly rowdy, I have to find my ipod or earplugs or I know I will flip out.  The worst is when you're near a construction site, because it can be quiet for a while and then BOOM!  

I hate visual noise too, like when someone puts something right in my face and waves it around, or there are lots of things moving around and you just can't' take it all in.  

I hate it when I procrastinate!  And yet, it is a recurring theme here.  

I hate it when I email a professor and they don't respond.  

I hate condescension and passive aggressiveness, but I don't want to go into the particulars at present because I am irritated about this one right now.

I hate shallowness.  It bothers me way more than it should.  I'd much prefer to live and let live, but I can't shake the irritation!  

I hate it when my PCOS acts up, blech.  Hormones are evil.  

I hate it when people yell at others *hugs DFG* Nobody deserves to be yelled at all the time.  

I hate it when people stare at my kids, particularly youngest. Yes, he's wearing hearing aids and acting like a baby, you gots a problem?!

I hate it when I can't sleep, or sleep too much.  Finding a happy medium is not my strong point, in this or anything!  

I hate it when people say I'm hypersensive as though that's a character judgement.  

I hate it when someone knows that one of my kids is adopted, and they ask me which kids are mine.  They're all mine!!!  I also hate it when someone asks me questions about youngest's mother or father, as though I'm not his mother and DH is not his father.  Giving the talk about proper adoption language is getting old, so I just proceed as though they're referring to me and DH.  It usually gets the point across.

I hate it when I see all these Aspie women with their husbands and children and I am reminded of what I could have had.

Geez, what you said so much echoes my life's experiences.