I also wanted to include this in my previous post.  I read "An Asperger Marriage" by Christopher & Giselle Walker.  Christopher is Aspie and Giselle is NT.  As with many Aspie-NT couple who come together without knowledge or forsight about what it means regarding a partner with Asperger Syndrome, Christopher & Giselle had major marital problems.  Fortunately they were able to combat their problems as each of them learned about what Asperger Syndrome really was, why each partners' needs were different, and how to effectively compromise.

There's a part in particular I'd like to mention.  As an Aspie myself, I have a tendency to react slowly to sudden things (in comparison to an NT person) especially if my mind's engaged at something.  This same orientation applied to Christopher Walker.  Now if Giselle was busy doing something and a mini crisis occured, Christopher was not inclined to automatically, instantaneously rush over to tend to it.  Christopher had to be more concious of those types of situations and he was.  But he still screwed up.  To compound tensios, while Christopher was trying to do the right thing and screwed up, Giselle would be mad at him because he seemed to care more about whether or not he was "good" rather then about Giselle's welfare at the moment.  Hence tensions escalated.  I'm sure Christopher's intentions were both about Giselle's welfare and that he didn't want to screw up being a good husband.  Well, fortunately between them this gaffe was eventually understood.