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wendyl Wrote:

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wendyl Wrote:
I absolutely have the right to be offended, any time I choose to be. I am not "supposed" to be any way except the way I am.

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In America, you do not have the right to not be offended.


I never suggested that you don't have the right to be offended. Please read my statement carefully. I have a tendency to say precisely what I mean.

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I didn't say I have ANY problem with muslim woman wearing headscarves, I only said I don't like the Burqa, NOT the headscarf, or Hijab.

It's all on a spectrum. What makes one form of dress acceptable and not the other? Both conform to religious and legal rules on the subject. What differentiates one from the other? In your opinion, the hijab is clearly covered by the free practice of religion, while the burqa is not. However, if, today, your reform is successful and we ban the burqa, what is to prevent someone else from banning the hijab tomorrow? The precedent will have been set for the government interfering in the free exercise of religion, merely because some members choose to dress outside of cultural norms. Shall we ban punk rockers next?

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I find the Burqa offensive for a number of reasons. It is clearly a sign of the oppression of women to me...

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Also, my impression of the women that wear Burqas and their families, is that they are more likely to be extremists.

These two statements strike me as being extremely prejudicial. While it is true that you would expect the more devoted followers of a religion to adopt more extreme behavior relative to their host culture, it's unfair to make the generalization that everyone who wears a burqa is an extremist.

As for your views of the oppression of women, in Western countries, an individual cannot force any adult to wear any article of clothing that he/she chooses not to. No one has the right to force another to practice a religion in a certain way. Do you feel that women are oppressed because they wear burqas and men do not? If so, you are correct that a double standard exists, but you cannot fault a woman for willingly choosing to conform to a standard that has been set by religious authorities. Double standards for the sexes exist in almost all Western religions. If, for whatever reason, a woman believes that wearing a burqa is the key to eternal salvation, who are we to disagree with her? And suppose for a moment that this is a correct belief that accurately reflects the real world. Do you have the right to potentially stop her from eternal salvation just because you feel uncomfortable?

wendyl Wrote:
...and I do have problem with someone moving to a different country and culture, and not being willing to conform to that countries culture.  I happen to have a dislike of extremists of ANY religious persuasion.

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Why should someone be forced to conform to the local culture by force of law? I find that idea far more offensive than any piece of clothe could ever be.

Gareth is absolutely right.

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By they way, I DO know, and respect, and am friends with, several people who are Muslim. I live in an area that is not culturally diverse, so I only know about five. They also conform to Muslim standards of dress, and were all born and raised in America. None of them wear a Burqa, however.

And if they did wear the burqa? What then? Would you stop being friends with them? Would you feel the need to proselytize them with your beliefs, merely because they are expressing their own? Would you continue to be friends with them, but silently disapprove of their choice of expression? Or, perhaps, would you learn to accept them and their expression for what it is?

Somehow I find the last choice extremely unlikely.


Once again, you are sadly confused and mistaken. I never said the Burqa should be banned or that there should be a law against it. I said I am offended by it. I said I don't like it. I happen to believe it IS a sign of oppression of women. That is my right. I can believe anything I want. I have not attacked you for having a different opinon. Why are you attacking me for my opinion?

And how can you possible compare being a Punk to wearing a Burqa? They are as opposite as they can be. I know this because I was a hard-core punk for many years. Dressing as a punk, is a form of self-expression, and is often a rebellion against society. I feel lucky that I live somewhere that I could express myself in that way. Wearing a Burqa is the opposite of freedom of expression. It is absolutely a form of oppression, IN MY OPINION. I believe the women that wear them don't know any better. I believe that they have no choice, and that many of them would not be allowed to leave their homes at all if they were not wearing one. I also believe that it is not stated anywhere in the Qur'an that a woman should wear a Burqa. I think that it is an extreme interpretation of modesty, and is done for the benefit of the men, and to the detriment of women. And as I stated previously, I do not like any form of religious extremism, which this cleary is, to me.

By the way, if one of my friends decided that they had to wear a Burqa, I would respect that choice. I am fairly certain that it is a most unlikely possiblity that any of them would ever make such a decision.


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and I do have problem with someone moving to a different country and culture, and not being willing to conform to that countries culture




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RE: Burqa ban - bad because it makes casual socialisation awkward?

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I think that you should be allowed to wear them, but no one can make you.  Forcing women to wear burqas should be banned, the burqas themselves? Not so much.  I mean, sometimes it's just a fashion statement.



They want you to believe it is. Like they want you to believe that it is always the women choice.

It's not.

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I think that you should be allowed to wear them, but no one can make you.  Forcing women to wear burqas should be banned, the burqas themselves? Not so much.  I mean, sometimes it's just a fashion statement.



They want you to believe it is. Like they want you to believe that it is always the women choice.

It's not.


In every single case? You honestly believe that it's never possible for a woman to choose?
You know, if I was female i'd wear the burqa myself specifically just to protest against idiocy like this.




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Women aren't forced to wear burqas but if they are part of a culture that ostracises them for not wearing burqas, what do you call that? They won't step out of line. You can't force human rights on people; beyond a point they have to step up and take them, usually costing the first brave ones their lives.

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you cant force womens rights upon males, who are quite content leaving women subservient


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The vast majority of Muslim women in my country do not wear the burqa, and not all wear the headscarf either, although that is much more common.

A Scottish Muslim woman recently told me that she choses to wear the head scarf and that her sister has now chosen to cover her face when in public.  That is a choice her sister has freely made as an expression of her faith and cultural background.  The wearing of the head scarf, face covering and the full burqa can be a chosen political statement, in those countries where women can choose.

There are countries where women are undoubtedly forced to wear the burqa, Afghanistan springs to mind, and if they refuse their lives are made extremely difficult, dangerous or even taken from them.  There are some Muslim women in this country whose life choices are severely restricted, but that is usually down to the cultural background and norms within that particular family or group.

It's not the simple issue that it's being made out to be on this thread, and none us have any direct experience or knowledge of the freedom or otherwise of the women who do wear the burqa.


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Gareth Wrote:

Vampslord Wrote:

AspieGrrl Wrote:
I think that you should be allowed to wear them, but no one can make you.  Forcing women to wear burqas should be banned, the burqas themselves? Not so much.  I mean, sometimes it's just a fashion statement.


They want you to believe it is. Like they want you to believe that it is always the women choice.

It's not.


In every single case? You honestly believe that it's never possible for a woman to choose?
You know, if I was female i'd wear the burqa myself specifically just to protest against idiocy like this.


I said the want you to believe it's ALWAYS the women choice.

It's the same thing jehovah witness did in bulgary whe the gouvernment wanted to pass a law saying they were a cult and not a religion because they force people to reject blood transfusion. They said we dont force people to refuse anymore. They said that people who would be doing it would not be disfellowship anymore. In fact, they kept disfellowshipping them, saying if someone accept blood, they remove themself from the herd. It's not us that remove them. In french we have a expression for that. I'ts blanc bonnet-bonnet blanc. Closest you guys have in english is patatoes, potatoes.

The Burqua situation is exactly the same. They say women have a right to choose, but if they dont make the right choice, they will be punished in most case.


Read carefully before calling someone argument an idiocy

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So, to what does "they want you to believe it is" refer?




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It refers to this that aspiegrrl said

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I mean, sometimes it's just a fashion statement.


Then i followed up with

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Like they want you to believe that it is always the women choice.

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grr bad click.. erase this.

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AspieGrrl Wrote:
I think that you should be allowed to wear them, but no one can make you.  Forcing women to wear burqas should be banned, the burqas themselves? Not so much.  I mean, sometimes it's just a fashion statement.


I agree that they should be allowed to wear them. I don't think it's very likely that it is a fashion statement, but it is their right to dress how they want. It is legal here in the U.S., and I don't think that is going to change. But I am getting the impression that our Muslim population is a much smaller ratio than European countries. If that were to change, then I wouldn't be surprised if someone would try to pass a law against the Burqa.

I am wondering if anybody at all on here personally knows a woman who wears the Burqa? And when I work next time with one of my Muslim friends, especially the one I have know longest, who is an ER Physician, I am going to ask him how he feels about the Burqa. He is very involved in the local Muslim community. He just started a program where he acting as a Liason between the Muslim community, and Law Enforcement (He is the physician for our local SWAT team, and is going to go through a Police Academy soon. He be one the few people who are an M.D. and a Police officer). I'll let you know what he said.

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Additionally, I know a Muslim woman who was born and raised in America. She conforms to Muslim standards of dress. To where should she be sent?

Back where she came from of course!


If this remark is directed at me, you are incorrect. I don't think they should go back to where they came from. But I do find it strange that they expect their new country to conform to their culture, instead of the other way around.  And I also think that those of you who live in Europe, are having a completely different experience than those of us who live in the US. I know there are some areas here with high Muslim concentrations, but there are not many of them. I know of one person that I believe is probably from Pakistan. ONE. So you see, it's sort of a non-issue here at the moment.

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I used to know one who ran away from home. She change her name etc because she was scared of being killed by her familly. She use to wear the hijab. Her 2 older brother would walk her to school back and forth just to make sure she would not talk to any boy on the way there. She had it rough. She was glad to be away from home, on not be force to put on the hijab, she could talk freely to man etc.

That's in Quebec. Not Iran

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There are regularly 'honour killings' of Muslim women by their fathers and brothers. It's a vile culture.

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Yeah.. a little 11-13 yrs old got beat up to death 2-3 week ago in Montreal. She refuse to pray on night.

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