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BruceCM Wrote:
Very tricky to be specific, as it's not usually possible to get much more guidance than already quoted. Problem being I'll get upset about the accusation and it seems to go downhill from there. Then, the person won't discuss it later because it upset me and, probably, them. And I don't know what bit of the body language, facial expressions or tone of voice led them to think whatever it was! Which is why I really need somebody who's there when it happens. Then, if they think I'm misunderstanding the other person, they can say what they think was meant. While the person is there to agree or disagree. And may be able to help me explain whatever I'm saying to them, etc. Only there's no such help available. The local AS support group lady claims 'positive is all about attitude', for instance. If you don't agree, she can't help you.


OK...I am also frequently misunderstood.  I'll sometimes say something and the other person gets a strange look on his face.  For those who know me...they automatically realize what it is I must have meant.

e.g....(I think I will use this more often Cool) Sometimes someone will ask a very specific question ( Why did they do that?)...I would answer with a general statement and work my way back down to the specific...or leave it at that...thinking the specific answer would be perfectly obvious...(They have chosen the short term over the long).  Of course, they could grasp the thrust of my meaning...but they would look at me and wonder why I had chosen those particular words.  I would look at them with wonderment because I knew they knew the answer...I was amazed at why they had asked the question in the first place.  Is your situation similar to this?

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RE: The art of the Apology - When to - and not to - BruceCM - 08-30-2010, 10:08 AM
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