My dad took me to a female friend's house with her family. Afterward to told me: "Don't tell mom or I'll spank you." My dad loves the company of women. When my parents got separated, he told my mom he was going to sleep with that woman.

This post was last modified: 05-05-2011 11:45 PM by Duckfetishgirl.

Thats terrible! I've also had issues with my father. Mainly due to verbal abuse as a child, he used alot of name-calling and used to yell at me alot as he was very short-tempered. Now that I am older and since my parent's sepparated we have gotten along better; however, he tends to care more about his job and his money than his family sometimes. He also tends to boss me arround and tell me to do things for him without asking me what my schedule is, which can be very frustrating.

This post was last modified: 05-06-2011 12:20 AM by shrineyguard.

I certainly know how you all feel.  I am angry and upset with my parents and my brother right now too.  I am not on the spectrum but I am certain my brother and mother are since I have a son on the spectrum.

I am not forgiving your fathers, nor am I telling you what to do, but I would like to make some suggestions that might help.  Fathers play a role in life, just like the President or Prime Minister does.  A father needs to set standards in his household and his family (although some don't or set very bad ones).  If your father gets upset with you for your behaviours (i.e. swearing, phsyical violence, inappropriate language), please don't hate him for that.  He is actually trying to help you (he wants you to succeed in society so that you enjoy your life).

If you get mad at him, no problem, that is normal.  But over time, try to find a way to forgive him and if you have done something that got him all worked up in the first place, tell him you are sorry.  If he loves you (most do),  he will forgive you and probably tell you he is sorry for doing what he did.  BOOM, problem solved!

I deal with this stuff every day of my life.  It's not fun, but I'm sure it wasn't fun to be on Apollo 13 either.  Just deal with it day by day and try to find a solution that will make you and everyone around you happier.

If I wasn't an atheist I would say "God bless you".  But as an Atheist, let me just say "Aliens bless you!".

When I was a child and I was playing and having fun, I'd hear my dad's voice booming in my head saying: "NO!". It made me jump even though he wasn't really there saying it. It happened a few times. I could never feel at ease with my dad around. He would spank me if I spilled a drink. I spilled it because he was there making me nervous. Spanking was the answer for my dad.

This post was last modified: 05-21-2011 10:26 PM by Duckfetishgirl.

Hi Neill,

I am sorry for the frustartion you are currently experiencing. I sympathize with you.
These are only my opinions based on my own experiences. I could be completely and totally wrong here.
It sounds like your dad is experiencing a lot of frustration which he is inappropriately taking out on you. Does he have any service providers? Maybe he has developed a pattern of asking you to do thigns because he knows you will do them. Most of this seems to be from a lack of independence. I hope things get better for you and that you are back in uni soon.
Has he gone through a rehabilitation program? If my questions are too personal, please feel free to ignore them. You should not be treated this way.