Thanks, TQO! A lot of the time I do fail to see all sides and other times I stay out of it and don't even TRY to think. Often when I see all sides I get bashed from all sides too. And I hate it when I validate points me and Stan tried to make that are different from each other, yet he refuses to validate mine and just validates his own. I try and say it's both of us, but he seems to want to believe it's only me and that he can do no wrong. But when my mother got like that he accused her of what I'm accusing him of in this post... made me feel better for some reason tho, partially because I'm thinking, like, "Maybe there is hope of his understanding what I mean."