At my community college there is, all I need to do is keep my IEP handy and I get the help I need... must be that the schools give good accomadations these days...

Hope your son is coping with school well.

School was such a meltdown provoking experience, that my Mum said that she found it very difficult even to get me to school most days.
During school was awful, if it wasn't for the almost daily history lessons and a birlliant history teacher. I do not know what would have happened.  
That was mostly down to bullying, no friends and being different with my interests seemed immature and some of the things I did and said were seen as something to make fun of.
When I used to return home from school, I would feel so mentally and emotionally tired through being surrounded by the circumstances and differences that it did become too much.

I was bullied a lot during high school. I was in denial that it was happening for a very long time. I admited, to myself,  that it was happening about six months ago. My family never knew and still don't know anything about it. In grade 9, I decided that I had enough. I wanted it to change and so I tried fitting in. I went from best in the classes to barely passing my courses. I've also failed at reducing the bullying while doing that. Still, I can't complain; I've never been physicly bullied, only verbally, because I was as big or bigger than my bullies. Many have had it much worse than I. I've also had pretty much only bad friends but that's another story. I hate how I never see betrayal coming and can't even defend myself.


Hope your son gets better school experiences than many of us have had.

Thanks! My son is actually reasonably assertive. I once saw him standing in a line and another boy tried to push in front. My son looked and moved in an assertive way and said: "I was here first. And I'm older than you, too." And the teacher says he is tolerated, not bullied. The kids have all known each other since they were four, which is the greater part of their lives, and they know that "this is just his way".  He just hates having to sit still and do stuff the teacher tells him to do. He doesn't see why. I expect bullying to become more of a problem in high school, where they don't know him and social life becomes more subtle. After all most seven year old boys can be a bit blunt or unruly at times, so he doesn't stand out that much yet.

Patrice, I'd hate it if I didn't know things like that were happening to my boy. No matter how painful, as a mother I'd want to know it. Luckily we are very close at the moment, he tells me everything (I think!). Does it work against your relationship with them when you tell your parents about that sort of thing, or is it just too painful to mention to them? No need to reply to this if you don't want to, just a thought. I've been reading your other posts, just didn't reply because I felt I didn't have a useful contribution to make at that point...

I never told my parents that I was being bullied in the schools that I had been to (I'm good at running away from my problems).  In one of the schools a perceptive teacher (art teacher) noticed.  

My parents weren't happy that I did not tell them about the bullying.  Yet, I've always done this. I just can't...I find it hard.  

-Hope I didn't sound bitter...I am..bullying in schools when the teachers failed to do anything about it just ........it is not something to easily forget.

I now regret that I didn't tell my parents what was going on but as I said..I've always done this. I just can't tell them about this sort of thing...the difficulties because it is too hard to tell them.

Saft, is that because you were afraid to hurt them? Or because you felt that you should have been able to handle it yourself? Or none of these reasons, but somehow it just won't come out?

Is there anything your parents could have done to make it easier for you to speak about it? Because if there is,  it may help me with my boy...

Not because I was afraid that the bullying would hurt them and I knew that I was unable to handle it by myself.  I think it was because whilst I did want to tell them, I've always had problems in school.  Some of them can be quite minor but they affect me just as badly as the major problems.

I am not sure.  I did want to tell them but I couldn't.  By then the bullying was just every day life..and there was no way out...

I just wish that my parents were easier to talk to.  Even now, with problems, I go to my sister for help as she has always listened, understood and noticed if something was wrong.  

Perhaps someone else will be able to advise you Earth Mum about what can be done to make talking about bullying easier.  I'm not much help.

It's very hard for me to say anything personal to anyone. I have and always had to wait until someone noticed to let them know. That means, in many cases, that support never came at all so I had to fend for myself for most of my life. It still is that way. This forum is sort of a way to open up. Talking "anonymously" to strangers seems like a good start but I'm very far from reaching the point were I can actually tell my family anything.

Thanks, Saft and Patrice! I'll just have to be very vigilant, keep a sharp look-out for changed behaviour, and hope for the best. At least we have a very intimate relationship now. He said to me, very matter-of-factly: "I am glad that I was born. And I am also glad I was born from you." -an Aspie declaration of love, if you ask me!

I wish both of you good luck in communicating important things to important people. By the way, even for an NT this can be hard sometimes...

An additional problem is that I am not close to either of my parents.  
The forum has helped a lot in a way to talk about important things.  Sometimes I feel as though I can do it and I do but other times...I can not.  Yet, it has led me to talking to my sister about these things.  Someday, I may be able to go further vent but not right now.

Aye, my sister (NT) has had some problems with talking about important things aswell but she does speak to my parents about it.

He's in school now, and he's been great! When I woke him up, he just muttered "Oh no". After a few gentle reminders and a kitchen timer in his bed, he suddenly turned up downstairs all dressed, beaming because he beat the timer. Good boy!

I hope all goes well today. If not, my new year resolution will be to be even more assertive and horrible to the school management than I already was.

I can relate as well.. (Though I have not had to do anything this year... whew)