Bardwolf, I'm so sorry.  You tried to join in with a community that any rational person would think would accept you because of your similarities, but they didn't.  You don't deserve that sort of shenanighans.

It's happened to me, too.  In fact, I've spent the last three months trying to get a damn psychologist to LISTEN when I tell him this is what happened, and that it's why I'm reluctant to try again.  Sometimes, hard as it is, it can be better to be alone than around people who think you're some sort of DIY project.