The good, John is happy to be who he is and how he is.
The bad, since the folks at school have / use labels and they don't think similarly about John - they want him to be able to "see the grey" areas in things, they want him to try to be like them...now... - (in other words to change him).  He can't help but feel the inherent inconsistency between, what "they" think the word means and what he thinks the word means.  I am pleased that, and with this forums help, I am getting closer, the word aspie just rolled off his tongue.. maybe he can disassociate the word aspergers as defined by others and aspie as defined by himself... Thanks for any input.  I so appreciate the insight.