I wish I could've been sixteen forever. I'm turning twenty this year and I am really dreading it. I already felt too old at eighteen. I feel too tall at 5'5. Being an adult does have its perks but at the same time I feel like I'm having to act in a role that I don't belong in.

Gah, I think I'm having some sort of brain blockage going on lately.   

I can't seem to think about the point people make in their posts and it feels like my brain is half asleep lately, like it's trying to fall asleep or something on me.... Concentrating on books I'm trying to read and doing simple math problems are making my mind feel like it's out of shape. That's why I was apologizing for, I think my minds dying on me or something ......

Oh no Maybe do some meditating, or brain exercises?

Yeah, I'm 40 and have three kids, and still feel like a kid, or like I'm pretending, which gets really weird when policy makers start asking my opinion...I seriously feel like I'm playing dress-ups. I've just gotten used to feeling that way, which a lot of non-aspies also experience.

Oh no Maybe do some meditating, or brain exercises?

  

Been playing brain age but it feels like it drains me even more. It's an excellent brain exerciser but like a good workout, it leaves me exhausted..... : /  Also my brain's to easily distracted to meditate, so many things on my mind.... I need to find a good way of meditation.

Maybe try yoga or tai chi - I find the required focus helps overcome the brain noise. I always have rabid mental chatter when I sit and meditate, but the act of meditating does at least give me a bit of an ability to not get completely caught up in it, but I really notice when I'm out of practice, like now... I find it helps me to distance and myself and think "oh, there's the brain noise, that's OK" and I find that in itself really useful.

Well I know this may be a really stupid question but isn't Yoga a woman’s thing ? :/  Tai chi I remember watching on television some time ago on this one channel (forgot which) when we had DirecTV....

Not a stupid question. Heaps of guys do yoga, or at least they do here in Australia (not sure where you are). Many teach it, too. I find it really helpful, although only when I can find a class that is relaxed. Some of them can get a bit uptight - like "More yogic than thou" nonsense, thinking it's some kind of competitive thing *yawn*, which I hate to say the guys tend to be a bit more prone to. I just tend to tune it out, or like I said, find a more relaxed class

Are there some phrases that you commonly use such as "when you grow up you will be... or do".  It could be that she does not know what to expect.  Change is difficult and can be uncomfortable.   What does she think is expected of her if she "grows up" and what can she do if she thinks she can't handle it.  I lived at home until I got married (over age 30).  I could never live on my own and take care of all business myself.  I don't see why I should be expected to.  If the situation arises that I would have to live on my own, I need access to supports.  

How did she react to menstruating?  I remember it was promised as a huge "deal" but I was rather disappointed.  I thought it was a one time deal and then I would get to do all the activities such as horse backing riding, diving etc on the tampon commercials.  

Sex was another huge misunderstanding.  I understood the mechanics of it somewhat but not the feelings and social ideas about it.  

I played with Barbie dolls until I was 16 - then only because my father said I was too old to play with dolls.  

Being comfortable such as wearing flat shoes and wearing girl bras is fine.  You might bring home a "real bra" and suggest that some other teen girls liked wearing it and found it comfortable.  There are some really bright colour ones or some soft types that might be suitable.  It does not seem like she is really needing some heavy duty support at her weight and height.  She might like to go shopping on her own or look through a catalogue.  

The "you're growing up" tantrums are not happening.   They would be just rude to other people.  She could learn a reply such as "thank you" and changing the subject is just what people do.  Maybe she does not like people asking her what career she would like.  I know that I hated that.  I would say the acceptable profession for my mother's sake so she could gush at her friends reply while I was never going to be a doctor, lawyer or teacher.  

I usually wear socks with my sandals just because I don't like the feeling of dirt, grass on my feet.  Maybe it looks nerdy but I do not care.  I wear sneakers with dresses too.  As for rolling up the pants - well teens have weird styles and some of the "in" fashions look ridiculous.  Probably your daughter is not considered in fashion but at least she is wearing what she wants and feels comfortable in.  As long as she is clean, tidy and appropriately covered - don't worry about it.