Hi there,

I wanted to know if anyone could offer some ideas for me for a problem I've having at work. I have a diagnosis of Aspergers however I haven't disclosed it to people at work. I believe that I am able to 'act' in a manner that is seen to others as 'normal', and while I personally struggle with the social aspect of the job, I feel this is something that isn't obvious to others.

However, I recently had a performance appraisal and was told that I sometimes appear 'aggressive' or 'intimidating' when I'm challenged or 'not getting my way'. Apparently my physical presentation during this issue includes standing up straighter, pressing my chest out, increasing (and intensifying) eye-contact, increasing voice volume and talking in a 'flat, toneless and hypnotic' voice.

From further discussion with some other people, both co-workers and friends, they confirmed that I do this regularly.

The biggest issue, however, is that I have no idea that I am doing this. Or how to stop doing this.

Any ideas?