07-19-2007, 12:23 PM
How do you people get over the problem of having people within your personal space, are there any ways around it, also what about touch?
Thankyou for any help.
Thankyou for any help.
07-19-2007, 12:23 PM
hrick
07-19-2007, 01:16 PM
Acuna - this is more directed to you than them, but have you ever looked in to trying a sensory diet for brief period. It may help the symptoms. The discomfort you feel may be based on tactile sensory defensiveness. The diet is simple enough. An OT with SIE background can give you instruction. It involves brushing ( a certain technique & number of strokes) different body areas using a surgeon's scrub brush. You do it every few hours for a few weeks. Donna Williams did it for a time and I believe it helped her. Small children are especially receptive to its effects because their sensory systems are so much more elastic than adults, but an adult's system might respond to it.
Simply stepping back or putting a hand out while politely telling someone who is encroaching on your space that you need it will serve just as well and should be respected. I would think most NT's would think of it as a cultural thing or associate it with feelings clostrophobia, something they can easily understand. No offense should be taken. Worse case scenario they'll think they have to check their breath. Mom of Hrick
Simply stepping back or putting a hand out while politely telling someone who is encroaching on your space that you need it will serve just as well and should be respected. I would think most NT's would think of it as a cultural thing or associate it with feelings clostrophobia, something they can easily understand. No offense should be taken. Worse case scenario they'll think they have to check their breath. Mom of Hrick
07-19-2007, 02:03 PM
I like Hricks suggestion. I myself is the excate oppisit. I like touch, it's how I affirm my world and tells me who is my friend or foe. I analyze by touch
07-19-2007, 02:30 PM
I can have a pretty big issue with personal space sometimes. Other times I don't.
If I'm having a bad day I can be pretty rude when it comes to dealing with it, including pulling away from or physically stepping away from the person. There's one friend that makes me particularly uncomfortable because he's clingy and at times insists on putting his hand on my shoulder while walking and talking to me (he's not even my BF).
I have to actually move away from him. Sometimes that's the only way to deal with people who get too close.
Generally I keep space when I'm talking to people, often more then most people might. Usually several steps. I feel more comfortable that way.
If I'm having a bad day I can be pretty rude when it comes to dealing with it, including pulling away from or physically stepping away from the person. There's one friend that makes me particularly uncomfortable because he's clingy and at times insists on putting his hand on my shoulder while walking and talking to me (he's not even my BF).
I have to actually move away from him. Sometimes that's the only way to deal with people who get too close.
Generally I keep space when I'm talking to people, often more then most people might. Usually several steps. I feel more comfortable that way.
07-19-2007, 02:40 PM
For me it depends very much on who is in my space. There are some people I don't mind having inches away from me, others I step away from in irritation. As for touch, I have no sensory discomfort from it, more mental discomfort. I rarely initiate touch because it seems such a breach of the other person's space (even if they don't think so) and because it just seems pointless. I can go through the motions of a handshake or even the 3-second "social hug," but they don't "do" anything for me.
07-19-2007, 04:05 PM
Personal space....
It's summer holiday. The children are at home all the time. And I miss my personal space, my personal time, my personal thoughts. There are four people in our household, and three of them need personal space a lot. But our house is not designed for people with this need. When the kids are at school its easier. But holidays can make us very itchy.
I do like touch a lot. Unless it's from someone I don't want near me at all. Then I'm horrified.
It's summer holiday. The children are at home all the time. And I miss my personal space, my personal time, my personal thoughts. There are four people in our household, and three of them need personal space a lot. But our house is not designed for people with this need. When the kids are at school its easier. But holidays can make us very itchy.
I do like touch a lot. Unless it's from someone I don't want near me at all. Then I'm horrified.
07-19-2007, 04:32 PM
[quote=I_like_kittens]I can have a pretty big issue with personal space sometimes. Other times I don't.p/quote]
I am the same way.
Today I had a massive problem with it.
I kept waving at my case manager to back up and move away from me and stuff.
At one point when I was trying to look for something I had him go into the other room. And I had him walk the dog when I wanted to do some other stuff.
I just for some reason can't seem to get anything done with someone even vaguely close to me today.
I am the same way.
Today I had a massive problem with it.
I kept waving at my case manager to back up and move away from me and stuff.
At one point when I was trying to look for something I had him go into the other room. And I had him walk the dog when I wanted to do some other stuff.
I just for some reason can't seem to get anything done with someone even vaguely close to me today.