here the story: family dinner night is monday. last monday we had sherperds pie which i wasnt aware i didn't like cuz i never tryed it be fore well i tryed a little and found didnt like the taste.
problem: do i tell mom i didnt like it?if so how do i tell her?i dont want to hurt her feelings.if i tell her she might take it bad.
side note:
mom spent alot time making it and i'm a picky eater becuase of my AS though my family does no that. i have sense of smell issue among other things.this i just thought tasted bad.
please any advice would be helpful.
i'm at home i'm 18 and i'm also consiteradate the pickest or one of the pickest eaters in the family only trumped by my baby bro who is 15.
and i tend to be lecture about my eating or lack there of.
what i'm wary of is if i tell her i didnt like the taste she might get mad and say something to the effect" i dont know why i even cook" while crying. mom has had depression issues be fore and has said that before,too.
thans for the advice though.
how should i tell her though, in a letter, face to face, i wonder.
may i you your words, ayreon?
what is a nice way, though?
i do better with letters than face to face, i cant tell my feeling face to face. understand now i like some of the words you said and i'm asking permession to use them.
I had a simular problem to that, because I'm a picky eater too. I used to have lots of arguments over it, because I'd just say I don't think things, and perhaps my mum thought I don't like the way she cooked it, instead of not liking the food, say beef, in general. It's mainly textures of things I don't like rather than the taste.
Maybe you could have a talk with your mum about it, and explain you just don't like cirtain foods. Explain that everybody has different tastes, and that it's not your choice what you like. Some people think somthing can only be gross if its cooked wrong. Also mention that you appreciate her cooking. I can understand it might be fustrating to spend ages cooking something, and then someone just says 'yuck' and leaves it. All that work for nothing.
Maybe you could ask what's for dinner in advance, and if you don't like it, maybe you can cook yourself something?
That's the best I can think of.
From an Nt's perspective this should not be a big deal. Different people simply have different tastes. My mom actually used to have an experiment night once a week while I was growing up. Things were either voted on or off the future menu list. I always focused on the recipe being bad as opposed to my dislike being a product of my mom's cooking. Is there something she makes that you do really like? How about saying something like this the next time the subject of your pickiness comes up. "I know I'm a picky eater when it comes to taste combinations. Like I wasn't real fond of the Shepard's Pie we had the other night..don't think I like that combination.... not like your ______. I love that recipe. Can we have that again soon? Also, if you make a point of telling mom when she makes something you do like, she will hopefully be more apt to view it as a product of the recipe being a good or bad one instead of as you just not liking her cooking. Hope this helps.
Mom of Hrick
So, to recap: the best way is not "Jeez, Mom! What
is this crap??"
I am probably the pickiest eater in the world, and I grew up with all the lectures and punishments. As nervous_neuron said, it's not just flavors, it's textures -- and Shepard's Pie is a train-wreck of discordant repulsive textures. I always assumed that shepherds didn't have much choice in what they ate, so they scraped together whatever pathetic scraps they could find, put them in a pie, held their noses and ate it.
yuck
Parents need to understand that people experience tastes and textures differently -- we don't choose our reactions, they are largely hard-wired. If Shepard's Pie tasted to your
mom the way it tastes to
you, she would throw it out the window. (And
that would solve the problem
)
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Maybe you could use more lenient words like "I'm not so fond of this particular dish!" or make a list of the foods you do like and leave out the ones that aren't of your liking. A little diplomacy...