All right. I took my own advice and started my own site relating to peer relationships between NTs and ACs, and any people for whom neurological difference plays a role in their peer relationships.
http://community.livejournal.com/neurocross/
Good page
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So when he encounters something that he can't build out of those specific patterns he's already memorized, he gets confused.
That happens mostly when one is younger
]An aspie in NT simulation mode is using as many and as small Legos as possible to build something like a neurotypical theory of mind and method of interaction
this is right, at least for me, i have memorized many, many, reactions from NT's to use them in different situation (sometimes I make a mistake on having chosen them)
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An emotion is either positive or negative, and you can't be both happy and unhappy at once. So if there are multiple inputs, he just goes with whichever is strongest as "the emotion" at the time, and gets confused if he can't work out which is strongest
well for me its difficult to find my emotions, as i said this is stronger when one is younger
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An emotion is either positive or negative, and you can't be both happy and unhappy at once.
It is a good page, but I just had to comment on this line. It may be just me, but it's entirely possible to feel both happy and unhappy at the same time, happens to me all the time, quite an odd feeling actually.
I asked this on another thread but wasn't answered--what is AC (in this context)? I know ASC is Autism Spectrum Condition, AS is Asperger Syndrome... but what is AC?
To anyone who stumbles upon this thread: I ditched the "neurocross" site linked above. Nobody joined it, I didn't feel confident to try to look for people to join it, and I discovered more or less the kind of community I was looking for in the "AS And Their Partners" Delphi Forum (
http://forums.delphiforums.com/asandpartners/).
So, after I got rejected from an IRL support group for romantic partners of Aspies because I was half the age of the other participants and had no experience living with or being married to my partner, and the therapist facilitating it thought that if the group was already mostly homogeneous, it would be better to make it all homogeneous so that the members could relate to each other better, I decided to share my perspectives by starting a blog:
http://reformnormal.blogspot.com/. I hope the partners' group I was rejected from doesn't turn into a miniature IRL version of the notorious "AS Partners." I'm assuming, though, that the therapist will not condone the level of hate they spew there.
Were their any NT male/aspie female pairings in the IRL group?
Were their any NT male/aspie female pairings in the IRL group?
Nope, and never in the history of the group, the therapist said. It was always NT women, usually wives of many years.
She said there was one case of a younger woman who'd just gotten engaged to her AS boyfriend when the group started. They broke up after the group. So I wonder if she was afraid of scaring me away from the relationship by hearing these women's harrowing tales, as well as concerned that I wouldn't relate to these women.
She had also remarked in her e-mail notifying me of rejection that I had some traits commonly found in Aspie women...basically all Enneagram 5w6 traits (intellectual, analytical, unsentimental), except for the need for breaks from physical affection. So although she didn't say this directly, perhaps she felt I was also not NT enough to relate to these women.
