I'm not sure if i've got AS or what, but have any of you ever thought up what youd say to your friends for the next day or what youd think theyd say and how youd respond to it? Or maybe think about how you're going to act in a certain social situation?
that's how i act all the time. Possibly AS?
I think most of us do that alot. When I'm alone I spend a lot of time "rehearsing" conversations and giving detailed explanations to questions I think people might ask me at some point in time. Not that this "practice" really helps with real conversations - everything goes to hell when I'm actually talking to someone (maybe because they don't ask me the questions I practiced answering or something).
I'm so glad someone started this topic. I used to do this, but my biggest problem now, and this is more ocd like, is thinking of conversations I've had where I've said something stupid and no one liked it or it was awkward and then focusing on it and making myself anxious. I've thought of situations of things I've done when I was 9, and it bothers me to the point where I almost squirm to stop thinking about it.
I used to think of conversations in advance but I stopped that. It doesn't work, I ended up in the real situation giving an answer to a question that wasn't asked in practice. People and conversations are too unpredictable, they cannot be planned.
About thinking about a conversation afterwards: I do this often. The result of repeating the conversation is that I store it in my memory and know literally what someone said or agreed. This is useful in my work. I do it also with the posts here. If the forum would be deleted, I can retrieve some of my and your posts accurately from my memory.
Just to let everyone know NT's do it too. I'm especially good at replaying what was an uncomfortable conversation or moment in head and replacing it with what I WISH I'd said in the moment. Some of us are just faster on our feet than others. Mom
I don't find that conversation comes naturally to me and never has. It makes me feel uncomfortable, especially if it is emotional or personal. I do find it easy to talk to people about specific subjects though, in which I either want to tell someone about something I know about or I want to learn or gain some knowledge about from them. Beyond that I am a little indifferent to what people say to me. Most of the conversations I have are pre-planned, I describe this as my scripts which I learn and use in different situations with different people. I find that if a different subject to one's I am interested in come up I have no plan so I don't say much at all and what I do say doesn't come accross right.
jaja yesterday my mother asked me, very angry, to write down a list of subjects which are adecuate to talk with me, to maintain a conversation I guest she means. I carefully thoght what to write. She stared me. I didn't write. She stared more. 5 second later she took the piece of paper with angry. There were nothing writed.
Back in my bedroom, which is the place I spend most of my time, I thought a little more. I concluded that we can't maintain a conversation concerning any subject as her interests aren't mine, and mine aren't her. (I think this is not well written...I'm not a english native speaker)
I do this a lot, thinking about past conversations. I think what could I had answer, possibilities, etc.
It never was useful.
I do that alot, I rhearse different conversations in my mind. Think about different questions and how I would respond. It doesn't really help all that much though.
Oh, yes, I rehearse conversations all the time. Especially before doctor appointments, because I get so nervous and worry that I'm going to stammer or forget what I need to say.
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Athie
All the time. And when I'm alone, I'll start doing it out loud without noticing. Of course nothing ever plays out the way I imagine, but it still gives me a sense of having planned for it that I seem to need.