Aspies For Freedom

  OK, who else, when asked by your NT significant other (or any other NT, for that matter) a simple question such as:  "What's your preference for dinner?, is likely to just shrug and say, "Whatever."
   My wife has a hard time grasping that I really don't have a preference and that whatever she makes will be OK with me.
   Apparently my brain's priorities don't extend to questions like this, any more than I can do "small talk".

I'm the same way. I don't even think about eating/cooking until I'm hungry. Whenever I go the grocery store, I have to go when I'm hungry or else I won't buy anything at all. Sometimes my mom will ask me in the middle of the afternoon what I want for dinner, and all I can say is "I don't know, I'm not hungry right now". How does she expect me to just know what I will want to eat later?

I that way also.  Around Christmas time when my parents ask me what i want for Christmas , I'll say that don't know. I'll than just ask for a gift card somewhere so i just pick out something wherever.

This is how I think too. I do have preferences, but I don't really know when it is appropriate to state them, nor can I remember them at a moment's notice.

When trying to decide what is for supper, my household has a tough time. Neither me nor my husband can really make decisions based on open ended questions like that. We fixed it with a menu list that is the same each week.

my friend gets really upset with me cos i can never decide anything.

Being indecisive is hard work but what if you genuinely can't choose.

Eeny meeny it is then lol

This is where being able to ask a waiter comes in handy But if you are like me i won't do it.

I could go out for a curry, want something different upto the heat of a Madras but I will have to look myself or take a guess and hope for the best.

Sometimes It's a little difficult for me too became clear what i really want, as Noetic i need to be hungry or have the needing of something, otherwise i don't care what i eat, except if is something i definitively don't like

It frustrated mom to take me shopping for school clothes because she kept asking me what I thought of different dress she held up and I kept telling her I didnt care. Which would cause her to discard them and hold up MORE items, asking me over and over.

She apparently thought the phrase "I really don't care. Buy whatever you want" meant "I hate what you are holding now but if you torture me long enough in this store, you'll find a perfect dress that will make me weep with joy".

When my parents make food for me they normally decide what to make without asking me. It works out much better since my only food preferences are permanent. (If they can't remember if I like something, then they ask.)

Erich (my Aspie boyfriend) loves for me to take him out every Sunday for brunch. I've learned that my invitation is limited to "What would you like? pancakes at Denny's or pancakes at Country Waffles?" The waitresses at both places no longer offer us menus. They know what we order.

I think someone brought up this study before in AFF but I don't know where.  It is a difficult idea for me to embrace and I've gotten in a debate about it with my Significant Other who has a doctorate in psychology.  It contradicts what I always believed. I've prided myself on "logical" decisions and thought "emotional" ones were prone to be foolish folly and the sort of trap some salesmen count upon.  However, this article claims that emotions play a bigger part in decision making than logic.  

http://www.usatoday.com/tech/science/dis...tudy_x.htm

You know, shish kabob is easy to make and it breaks up the routine of spaghetti, chicken, spaghetti, chicken, spaghetti, chicken.....
I can also do like pork chops.... but I cook them thoroughly..... (dry)      

I need more creativity in cooking.

The Subway near my college knows my order.

That'd be okay if you could be sure they wouldn't complain if you took them literally and cooked what you felt like but it's nice to at least have some idea what they want.