Aspies For Freedom

For me it's often a case of not being able to "connect" with what I may want to eat until I am actually hungry enough to want to eat something.

I can't materialize options in my head out of thin air.  So I do have preferences but no way to articulate them a lot of the time because I can't access them when presented with an open-ended question.

I have sometimes difficulties having the question clear in my head...

And then again it might take some time before I figure what I like the best thought of, spaghetti or wok?

But my parents seem patient enough for my tempo.

When I want something, I REALLY want it, and it usually has to be NOW... but I am not always aware of what I want or need, and to ask me what I want when I don't currently want it (strongly) is pointless.

Are you sure you are not MY husband. Have you been listening in at our home.  (lol)
Mom of Hrick

I'm not too bad at choosing what to have for dinner but what I want and what Gemma wants frequently differ.

When i'm out I can usually narrow it down to a couple of choices of what to have but that final decision can be a struggle and usually I revert to what do you think.....

I have trouble choosing what I want to eat--even when I am hungry. I'm a nightmare at restaurants; especially if it’s a restaurant I've never been too before or one with an extensive menu. I try to narrow it down by picking something healthy…but still I can’t choose.

I will literally eat anything--anything eatable that is. So when it comes to choosing what to have for dinner I really don’t mind…No REALLY I don't care…something healthy perhaps (this is a conversation I have with my wife almost every day).

That being said I do sometimes like to know in advance what we’re eating (even though I don’t particularly care what it is); and what time we'll be eating--it gives me a sense of structure.

That would drive me insane! I have enough trouble planning for and preparing meals as it is without that kind of thing. If they can't decide within a reasonable time (ie. before I get really tired), they would have to make their own or order take-out.

I do the cooking.  I get really annoyed when I make something and my husband comes home and says he does feel like that and orders take-out.  For one, I feel that he does not appreciate my cooking efforts/work.  Two.  I hate wasting food  three. take-out is really expensive and not so healthy.  The solution was to ask him at noon everyday what he wanted to eat that evening.  I have a large freezer.  Sometimes I plan a meal a day ahead so I can get to the market.

If you are not a picky eater, you might try working out a weekly menu.  -or just let your wife do that.  You can tell her what you really hate and leave those meals out of the menu.  Otherwise if you just eat whatever she cooks, it should not be a problem.

LOL!
I've got the folks at our bagel place trained.  They call me the "cranberry lady."
And the pizza folks are trained.  #26, no mushrooms, substitute peppers.

I can cook about 5 different meals (maybe).  I make a lot of one thing (e.g. lasagna or chicken) and eat it till it's gone.

My friends despair of me.

I have problems making choices in a hurry, especially if I really do not mind which of the options on offer is chosen. My husband has enormous difficulty making choices FULL STOP!

It took YEARS for us to get a PC because Erick would keep on comparing them. He's doing the same now with a replacement for our car. I wouldn't mind so much, but he keeps wanting my input, then finds something wrong with anything that I suggest.

At least I don't have a problem eating out. I ask if the chef can prepare anything gluten-free, his choice, and I always enjoy it because chefs like being creative!

I wonder how many of us find driving difficult because of the sequencing issues involved and the requirement to concentrate on more than one thing at a time. It wouldn't surprise me if it were quite a high proportion of us.

This is exactly why I don't drive!  I did take lessons years ago and became rather adept at maneuvering the car on the quiet suburban streets my instructor chose for the lessons, but I do not trust myself to coordinate my reactions quickly and correctly in the ever-changing landscape of a busy city street.  Even if I drove the same short route to work every day, it would never be the same route twice, because every day there would be a unique new set of other cars and other occurences to process and deal with.  Every time I read about a driver who caused a collision by stepping on the gas instead of the brake, I think, "That sounds just like what I would do in a panic!"

Unfortunately, I haven't driven for quite a long time but I had to turn off all the music to be able to concentrate on other things and didn't find it at all easy to carry on any conversations either.

Does anybody know what SoBe is? I guess it must be a kind of drink?