Aspies For Freedom

when i babysit, and the little girl gives me a hard time I hang her upside down to get her to laugh and stop the bad behavoir. Or I put her in time-out, whatever I feel suites the situation best.

I let them stay up as late as they want. The mom is like "i want them to go to bed at 9 oclock on the weekend" and thats just ridiculously early. So I let them stay up and when we hear the garage door open we RUN!!!!!!!!! to the bedrooms and pretend to go to sleep. This is a good strategy to become friends with the kids, when you're their friends they listen to you. This doesn't appliy to real parents, just baby sitters.

Well gee Bobbo, either we've got a troll..or someone with AS that is so socially inept they actually cannot be nice to people even if they try.

I genuinely cannot wait for more of this persons gems, god yes.

And grannies!

well i don't let the little one, age 4, up that late. She'll go to bed at 10 at the VERY VERY latest. (plus she's scared of monsters so it's hard to get her to bed). But there's no reason for the 12 year old to go to bed that early ON THE WEEKEND unless they have a big day the next day.

HEY! im a great babysitter! they have a great time and the kids ADORE me! and i make a point to bring over a scientific experiement for the kids to play with. Last time me and the little one made "goop" out of cornstrach and water; she played with it for an hour and had a blast. (we pretended it was pizza dough). And next time im gonna bring over a Mt. Vesuveus (sp?) and i'll bring over some baking soda, vinegar, and food coloring: all that fun stuff. And I can teach them about Pompay (sp?). It will be so fun.

Plus I leave the house absolutly spotless, wash the dishes, and put away the kids landury, ect.. all the other parent like stuff.

just cause I let them stay up a tinsey bit late to make some goop doesn't make me a bad babsitter!!!!!

LMFAO!!! sorry I thought you were mad at me

well hopefully the more tired they are the more naps they'll take, so if they are taking naps all day there is less opprotunity ot be smacked. Well this is how my demented logic works LOL

I'm one of those people who do not approve. Surely there are ways to deal with violent children, aside from reacting in violence back towards them. Ever heard of the saying "Do as I say, not as I do?" You hitting them, makes them feel they are justified in hitting you in the first place.

They also might not realize it hurts, they're children! If you say "Ow that hurts mommy!" maybe pretend to cry, they'll understand. Or put them in time out, some way that doesn't involve you physically assaulting the child. How would you like it if someone who looked like a giant, hit you?

Surely what little compassion they might have at that age, could be beaten out of them with a little spanking. You want to raise bullies?

Ah yes, since I don't have children I must know nothing about raising them. Surely there isn't any point into gaining insight from a child who was hit when they were younger, and how it trumatized them. No, who would care about gaining insight into what damage it will wreak on their children.

Compliance in response to fear, doesn't mean a child has learned anything, except how to behave to avoid the fear stimulus. How about talking to them instead, and explaining things to them. Oh but then they're only 2 year olds, they surely have no brains, and certainly aren't deserving of basic respect right?

I suppose that is why you feel it's ok to hit your kids back when they hit you? The cycle of abuse and all that.

me and my siblings were all spanked, not beaten. There is a difference. Getting a little tap on the behind is not going to make you a psycho freak, a beating might. All my sisters were spanked and were JUST FINE. Plus, i'd SO rather be spanked than be screamed in my face.

now this might sound crazy.... I have never....been.... spanked, beaten, bullied (physically).

i however have (when younger) gotten mad eough to lift the couch up and knock people off it (dont ask i dont know how), knock over bookshelves, break down doors. (i used to have a bad temper)

i also recently have had trouble where i push someone of me or away from me (gently) and they fly across the room. and i barely touch them or exert any force (makes me think of the phychic discussion....maybe i have telekinesis as well as empath skills....hmmmm)

sorry that only had half to do with the thread

thats a HELLA amount of adrenaline

Grizeltee(?)Thank you for being thought police enforcer. I agree that there are some things it's difficult to get a complete understanding of unless you've been there, and many people don't get that and think they know best when they don't,I think you're going too far by insisting that no one can say anything about raising children, is a troll, must not think about the subject, and ,appearently, should be forceably silenced, unless they are a parent.Unfortunately in the US the 1st amendment is still in force(that may not last much longer, and most people will be happy to see it go).It is not always necessary to have great knowledge or expertise on a subject to offer a small contribution.I don't know your children and can't tell much about how to raise them.The most i can say is that, looking back, the adults who i was around as a child(parents ,others relatives,girl scout leaders, et c.)did some things that helped me become a more functional adult with a better understanding of the the world,other things that didn't,and that MIGHT give a small bit if information about what works or not.Since i have abused you horribly by hinting at such  thought, now i miust punish myself for not comforming to the thought rules.Since i'm a long-time self-mutilator, i have some ideas, but i would realy like to know what you consider a suitable punishment  for this wrong thinking.Brave New World can't come soon enought.

scary thought

From the context of the original posting, it was number 3. This lady was saying that her two little kids were hitting her. I think it was very naughty for them to hit her and that she needed a way of stopping them from doing it.