Aspies For Freedom

I often feel that I have to take a walk outside if I hate my parents that evening.

It's a relevant question because I feel safe only in a limited number of circumstances. Best for me is: in a large crowd of people in a big city. Alternatives to feel safe: alone at home or alone in nature.

In my home, laying on the carpet in the winter, under a blanket with the foot end over the heat register.  When the heat comes on and poofs up the blanket into a warm cocoon, I wish i could stay there all winter. It is very cozy.

I agree with Ogsama-

driving... especially someplace scenic... tree-covered roads are a personal favorite.   My 2YO got off her usually nice sleep schedule this week so I had to take her on a long drive to get her to nap. It was so nice.

I feel safe in my bed sleeping or resting under blankets.

Ditto.

And like Five, I also prefer a big city, especially a multi-cultural one.  Then you are just another human and no telling what may or may not be making you odd...either way, "got places to go, things to do, don't have time to think about it..."

Coming from a small town where people have entirely TOO much time to think about it...and a relatively small control group with which to be compared...

Also coming from a small town, I do miss and crave nature.  I have to get away from the city regularly to listen to the earth.  I've never lived anywhere with "spectacular" stars...just normal homey stars.  But I can't tell you how much I miss the night (only so safe to venture so far) and the dark and the stars.

Then there's the lair...the naked cave.  Huge exhale when home and hear the heavy clicks of the locks and I can take off the NT cloak.

~chuckles~ oh great...now you've got me homesick western North Carolina!

I grew up near the Shenandoah in VA, lived in the valley as a young adult...I still cry when I lay eyes on my blue mountains.

The forests and hills were my safe place as a child.  Then they paved paradise

I guess that refers to me? In post 4, I also wrote "alone in nature".
I'm not diagnosed as Aspie, but an online self test resulted in me having many traits. And I do have many Aspie traits, one of them is taking words literally. I'm still in the process of discovering what and who I am. Everybody is unique so there will always remain differences between people on this forum .

Agreed; a lot of us feel safest with nature or animals.  Maybe NTs only feel safe in a hive sort of situation so they create one everywhere?

I wonder if it has to do with the idea of taming, or corralling or controlling things that don't fit into nice regulated definitions...

Although I'm not sure it strictly falls along NT/AC lines...I'm sure there are plenty of NT environmentalists.  But then again, its not generally the ACs who want a strip mall, or housing developments of only three types of houses, everywhere...

Don't think O was referring to you but to "NTs" in general.  Now, I'm not an official anything either so I consider myself a "neither/nor" pretty much like I've been my whole life.

I may not be AC but I'm certainly not NT...gather in, Five, I expect we're all of kin.

Snuggled in my bed, all warm and dark. Its like hibernating.

When its something like a panic attack... I go to my grandmothers arms (im living with her) or my Boyfriend's arms (If he's with me when it happens)

To just be alone and mind my own business when thats what I want... I go to my room and play video games with my stereo on.

When I'm lost and upset I go to the mall because I can't stand being in the house.

The only place I REALLY feel safe is the university library.

I do like to walk outdoors, for miles, and I notice that I always talk to the cats that I see, but never the people!

Me too, although I need a light on in the room as I am phobic of the dark.

And I need it to be quiet and warm.

In my living room with something I can strike someone with.