05-22-2007, 06:23 PM
Just an anecdote, but I told my primary care physician what Max said (because weight loss has strong implications for close relationships, weight loss is a physical problem with emotional and social implications, I am 120 pounds overweight, 288 when I should be not more than 169).
She suggested age 40 instead.
And suggested dating older women.
It did work for my younger brother until Mom gave him grief about it, woman age 55 from Latvia, when he was 30.
On the issue of weight, the average Caucasian male weighs 179 pounds. If I am a few standard deviations above the mean, I think the women would notice.
I am suggesting that a woman might pass the pressure or prejudice to lose weight along. Asian women on average weigh least, followed by the Caucasians. Then the African-American and Latina women.
Anecdotally my direct experience is mixed. I have dated African American and Caucasian in roughly equal numbers, albeit rarely and not right now, but only one Korean and no Latinas, even though I live in a Spanish speaking neighborhood. The Korean, who had both a Korean and American name, actually brought up the subject of endogamy (I am not Korean).
She suggested age 40 instead.
And suggested dating older women.
It did work for my younger brother until Mom gave him grief about it, woman age 55 from Latvia, when he was 30.
On the issue of weight, the average Caucasian male weighs 179 pounds. If I am a few standard deviations above the mean, I think the women would notice.
I am suggesting that a woman might pass the pressure or prejudice to lose weight along. Asian women on average weigh least, followed by the Caucasians. Then the African-American and Latina women.
Anecdotally my direct experience is mixed. I have dated African American and Caucasian in roughly equal numbers, albeit rarely and not right now, but only one Korean and no Latinas, even though I live in a Spanish speaking neighborhood. The Korean, who had both a Korean and American name, actually brought up the subject of endogamy (I am not Korean).
Max the Bear Wrote:
Rossco, I'm talking on the basis of what I've seen again and again -- girls of 18-22 get married to "cool guys" who are assholes and by 27-30-something the girls (now women) are sick of the guy and ask themselves "What was I thinking??"
That's when the nice guy -- whom they probably considered a nerd in high school -- strats seeming like a very good idea.
That's when the nice guy -- whom they probably considered a nerd in high school -- strats seeming like a very good idea.