Aspies For Freedom

Hi,

I'm new here. I used to use a forum on a different website but people were mean to me there so I don't use it anymore, despite the fact that it was supposed to be a 'safe' space for people with ASDs.

I just wondered if anyone could recommend any good forums (fora?) / chatrooms for people with AS (I'm in my 20s) where people are nice and where it is safe and well moderated so I won't get picked on?

I am hoping that this forum will be safer for me. I would be interested to hear people's advice as the internet is my main way of communicating wth others, and I can't cope if I'm going to be bullied on line as well as in person by people.

I would appreciate your advice.

Please don't be mean to me - I am a good person.

I haven't noticed that there have been any bullting here. However, I think new members are more often criticized in an unconstructive way.

Hello welcome to AFF!

Most people are very nice here, I can't recommend any other forums though since I don't go to any.

Don't worry I won't be mean to you

If there are bullies, then their bullying is usually broken up

Yeah, usually if anybody gets personal with anybody else, it's over differing opinions. Some of us need to learn that arguments should stay factual. *sigh* But it's not bullying, really. Just people getting too emotional about what they believe.

Agreed. And we have a Chat Room that I found to be very comfortable chatting in, nothing to complain about.

Sure we have a bad apple or two here but we're all well mannered and curtious, don't let one bad experience drive you away.

Welcome to the AFF. ^^b

I've had kind of a hard time finding good Aspie and Autie places online, it seems that my Aspergers is either too bad for some places and I'm not autistic enough for others, damned if you do, damned if you don't.  Myspace has a few good groups for people on the spectrum, but most of them are for the parents who are greving over the fact that their kid will never be a varsity quarterback who bangs the head cheerleader.  They all talk about how horrible it is to be the parents, and when I try talking from the perspective of someone who's actually on the spectrum I get all kinds of hate mail and get banned from them.  Most of the myspace groups seem to be all about the cure too, even the adult aspie ones get pissed when I say that I'm anti-cure.  I don't really want to hang out with a bunch of people that spend all their time complaining about how horrible their lives are and how the only way they feel they could ever live a good life is to take a cure which is more or less impossible to create.  I actually got banned from more than one group when someone mentions how most autistic people can't live a fulfilling life, and I say "well, who the hell are you to decide what someone considers a fulfilling life?"

This group's been pretty good so far, I've had some problems and arguements with some, but that's to be expected.

I'm not a bad apple whatsoever, and I don't like the possibility that you might be referring to me, in this.  I can get over-emotional at times but what can I say, that's just me.

Most times I am very respectful of others.  When I come across a bully I like to show them I don't appreciate what they're saying, but that's righteous anger.

He wasn't referring to anyone, specifically.

Thanks everyone.

It is really good to feel reassured after my bad experience with another site and you all seem really nice.

Thank you for being so welcoming.

My apologies batman, I was not refering to anyone in particular. It wasn't my intent to do so either.

Once again, my apologies.

Usually this forum is ok.  If you think someone is bullying you, then if they send a private message about it then they will tell you that they did not mean it.  Sometimes I am mean.   I might have a bad mood day.  I apologize in advance.  I try not to be mean.  Sometimes I don't realize it though.

No problem.  I'm a paranoid person and for some reason I often think negativity is pointed at me, even if it doesn't apply to me.

There's apparently a possibility to get hurt at the chatroom, people there are often not very serious.

... they just want to have fun :p