Aspies For Freedom

my brother does this and so does my sister , but there is a family wide stim-father and i do it(suppected, and aspie), and they do it(sibs of an aspie-me.)

Not I.

Hello,

Curiously, my sibling has a small yet above average number of Autistic traits. He can hear all the sounds that drive me insane, however only to the point were they annoy him, whereas in me the noises cause physical twisting and contortion, and even illness and fainting on rare occasions. He is also generally less emotionally driven than most people, which make him seem of higher maturity level than his peers. He does very well academically and can understand relatively complex topics in relation to his age. Personally I believe these traits point to him having an autistic-like systemizing brain, which might be a factor in why we get along so well in general. However he is doing very, very well socially and does not have an area or areas of special interest in which he can hyper-focus, and he is occasionally very vulnerable to peer pressure.

Even more interestingly, in my opinion, is that the only other people we’ve met who can hear the sounds I hear are a friend who is not Autistic but Dyslexic and his Neurotypical (however no Normal Personality Disorder) brother.  

My apologies that this post is too long, I am currently not experiencing one of those ADD “space-y” days.

Wm

Some of my siblings have a few Aspie-like traits, but I think I'm the only one who actually has it (general weirdness has been running in my dad's side of the family for as long as I can remember).

I see some things in my brother how I used to be but i don't know why that is or what causes it.

my brother actual denies the fact he has traits, when he is aware that he does.

he denies and admits thus in one breath/sentance.

I have a hard time asking for or accepting help from others, but I don't think to the extent your daughter does (i.e. if I genuinely needed help I would take it). I've read somewhere that this is a trait a lot of Aspies have.

My lil sis is "more" apie than me, if that's right.

I managed to connect somehow in junior high and high school, with the "art freaks" and the druggies... but she never managed to do that. Really had a harder time with the "what's wrong with me problem" than I really did... I knew I was different, but could fake normal. She just seemed to be stuck with some bad situations on top of all that (our school district underwent changes when she was in school so she switched schools twice and couldn't really make friends) She also is more disturbed by sensory stuff like smells (both hear those damned electronic beeps that threaten to blow your eardrums out though...)

Anyway, she didn't believe me at all when I told her about it, thought it was great for me and my "self-discovery" but didn't think about herself until I took her through it... now she's beginning to turn around.

Mmm, in my family the ones in denial are my parents.  I've tried everything I can to get them to at least consider the possibility that I have AS, but they refute everything I say out of hand with statements like "those symptoms are psycho-somatic, you're fooling yourself" or "I don't remember you ever being like that" or even out and out saying I'm lying to them.  They insist that I'm normal, but as soon as I do something they don't like they complain that I have wierd problems and why can't I just try to be normal.  What hypocrits.

I have serious doubts about mine which was at 14 and i am now 21 though unlike your daughter i have not been diagnosed with anything else and i don't exhibits every aspy trait it is not deniel i have been open minded about things. I say give her time  maybe she will come to relise she has it i don't know what to say really.

Poor kid. Chances are she is rejecting the "different" label, or even the "defective" label, all those diagnoses have given her... It'd be so much better if she'd accept it: Hey, I'm different, but that doesn't stop me from doing anything I want. But I wouldn't know how to get that concept across to her.

Although I wasn't diagnosed at that age, I was the same. I went through a brief phase of becoming a bit more socially aware, and trying to ignore all the "problems" I had had as a kid, getting very upset when my parents brought them up again. I had managed to overcome some, others had abated to a more tolerable level (sensory sensitivities for example)

I do think I might have actually reacted better to someone just telling me about autism, because I did shortly after this read about it myself (albeit more severe cases) and decided I was semi-autistic.

It was more the niggling around on my difficulties that I had overcome that made me angry, labels, if they had been properly explained, I could deal with. (I went to a special ed kindergarten as a "normal" kid for 1 1/2 years, and didn't understand why I couldn't stay there... I had no problems with labels or disabilities, it was perhaps more the manner in which my parents brought something up just as I was trying to deal with it that annoyed me)

MY PARENTS.

There's been a lot of denial in my family over the years.  My mom was probably (never diagnosed) bipolar and I'm diagnosed with it too.  My brother's probably an Aspie but at the age of 69 I don't think he's interested in diagnoses further than the depression & anxiety he already has.  My sister's diagnosed with depression, anxiety & panic disorders, and was recently diagnosed with ADD.  She's helping me figure out what Aspie symptoms I might have shown when I was very young (stuff prior to what I can recall).