Aspies For Freedom

But I said the boy shouldn't be allowed to kick people in the stomach. His dad needs to tell him it isn't acceptable behaviour.

One thing about "unacceptable" behaviours - it is absolutely useless to tell an aspie child "we don't do that here". Even with an adult it is liable not to be understood due to the literality of thought.

When they hear "we do not do that here" they think the teacher or authority figure is saying that they and others don't do it. The person with autism doesn't see that the "we" includes them.

It's better to say "do not kick" or "do not hit" so the idea gets more generalised. However, they also need to see that others don't get away with the same behaviour as most aspies have a very highly developed sense of justice and fair play.

Cherie, my mum resolved never to spank any of us either but the resolution faded a bit by the time she had two kids. I know of others who were dead set against smacking until they had children of their own. I certainly admire parents who can cope without ever smacking (provided they are not using emotional torture on their children) but some of them try to lay guilt trips upon others who have smacked sometimes.