Aspies For Freedom

Yeah, quit.  You and Johanna both.  It will be easier.  Really.  

Quite frankly, we do not need the drama.

I am going to have to say it again, in case you did not understand me the first time.  Quit.  

You have come on here, posted on about 10 threads "all for the benefit of google searchers" and flamed all over some long standing members of the forum.  In fact, I believe it was in your first 2 or 3 posts that you told Gareth (you know, the site owner!) to "keep his pants on".  Either learn to get along or leave (and take your friend Parvati with you.)

Did you get it now?  Or did I need to repeat myself again?  

Whether or not you believe your behavior to be rude is not all that relevant.  Obviously other people feel that you have been rude.  That is one of the things that you learn as you grow up.  Whether or not you feel that you are being rude to someone is not nearly as important as feelings of the person with which you are interacting.  

Oh, and I do not PM unless it is with friends.

actually whether you are a newbie or not it appears if you are not in the cligue which pervades this forum your ideas can be trampled on by folks who ask for tolerance and acceptance from others especially Nt`s, but are not willing to accept or tolerate the ideas of others. In other words you are free to be , say or believe what you wish as long as it is " the way I feel or think " .
   I am now suicidal because of attacks and misunderstandings of things I have recently posted.  I am used to being rejected by NT`s. But to be rejected by my own kind is a little more than I can stand. especially when I was just trying to be helpful.
   Please tread carefully here.

Johanna, not to be rude, but when you use the words "not to be rude" at the beginning of a sentence, it is usually because you are about to be rude.

Try not to be so patronizing as well Johanna. That does not help at all.  Really it does not.  

I tried to find points to bring up in your post Parvati, but I was not able to really separate them out, so I posted the whole thing again.

A lot of people that come to the forum are hurting.  That said, if skyblue, or anyone else, is feeling suicidal because of the forum, I would hope that they seek outside help as soon as possible.  I have been upset here before, have even cried over things that have happened, but if I get too upset, I just back off for awhile, and come back later.  

My husband, who is the reason I am here in the first place, has commented that with a bunch of people who can have difficulty communicating (like many, but not all, Aspies), of course the place will have misunderstandings.  

I think it is all people who can have that issue, especially when either emailing or posting on a forum.  You only have the words.  And the words can make sense when you are typing them out, and you understand what you were thinking, but then another person comes along and reads them and it seems like something completely different.  

It is SO IMPORTANT that we are able to ask questions, get clarification, and respect that people here are going to have different opinions.  

I think that a "noob" (game speak!  LOL!) should take a few days and read up before posting, or read the whole thread, or perhaps start, well, lightly.  Introduce yourself, offer bits, and learn, then start to add a lot of yourself.  Once people get to know you, they are more understanding of your thoughts and viewpoints.  

To defend the longstanding members that seem unfriendly or unwelcoming, there have been a lot of trolls since I joined the forum this year, and it is really hard to tell whether or not someone is genuine, and sincere, when they first start posting.  It takes some time...but I think if you give it the time, it could be really helpful to you (and once again, I am using you in the more general sense, not just to you Parvati.)

I could be totally wrong here, but Rossco, I think that Johanna came in with all kinds of enthusiasm and vigor, and said some things that later she said were too strong (I am paraphrasing here) and came around to say that she had actually listened to some viewpoints and that she was here and ready to work for the advancement of the forum and of Aspies in general.  

I think she got off on the wrong start, and I for one, think that she will be a good addition to the forum.  

Sorry if my paraphrasing is not exact Johanna, but I wanted to put forth that I believe you would be an asset to us.  Fresh blood, if you will forgive the pun!    

LOL, just let me put on my interpreting hat, hehe, but I think that (unless something went on that I did not see) Max was making a joke!  I think the tension is thick.  Let me cut it a bit and we can all have some with frosting.

Um, Amy, this is an old, since resolved problem and I don't think Korrigan was bullying there, instead she gave advice (most of which I believe was followed) and things did turn out pretty well.  I have to say I don't agree with this; we're already having trouble with lack of trust between the members and the administration, don't you think this sort of thing will aggravate that?

I don't understand why Korrigan has been banned.

And the old post that you quoted hardly provides reason for a warning, far less a ban.  As Max  points out, Korrigan has offered much advice to Johanna, and I'm sure I saw Johanna referring to Korrigan as a friend within the past few days.

As for the posting of pms, I've seen that done many times on AFF and there were no bans.

Quoted for Truth.

Do I have to whip my WTF doll?

I think I do


Ok so Zakkie got demoted, Korrigan is banned, and jeebus did someone called for a "Fourm Apocolypse?"

Well I cannot fix the Zakkie thing, but I have returned, so, that is at least taken care of.  I love your WTF doll!