04-15-2007, 05:10 PM
[quote=twokids3dogs]
My son ( 13 now) has had periods of aggression-the worst was when he was 8.. he was very anxious and unable to cope with school ( lots of pressure to fit in) etc.
He would attack me several times a day-but he usually announced himself coming by saying " OK THAT'S IT!!" so I was a bit prepared for it-He was always remorseful after and if he pulled my hair out would try to put it back.
I am smiling now, but it was a horrible time -especially for him.
I learned that he needs deep pressure, or "squishes" to relieve his anxiety; something else to hit like a pillow; Deep breathing, and pic symbols like 'calm down', ' count to 10', 'have a break'; lots of repetition about how to express emotions in a healthier way..
He didn't want to do any of this at first, and it took time to put into action- but is now learning to "regulate" himself. He now says " I am in that frisky mood" but he has some 'tools' now to help him cope better..
if I stay calm-he gets calmer faster..
( hard to be calm all the time though!)
Not sure if this helps at all -good luck
My son ( 13 now) has had periods of aggression-the worst was when he was 8.. he was very anxious and unable to cope with school ( lots of pressure to fit in) etc.
He would attack me several times a day-but he usually announced himself coming by saying " OK THAT'S IT!!" so I was a bit prepared for it-He was always remorseful after and if he pulled my hair out would try to put it back.
I am smiling now, but it was a horrible time -especially for him.
I learned that he needs deep pressure, or "squishes" to relieve his anxiety; something else to hit like a pillow; Deep breathing, and pic symbols like 'calm down', ' count to 10', 'have a break'; lots of repetition about how to express emotions in a healthier way..
He didn't want to do any of this at first, and it took time to put into action- but is now learning to "regulate" himself. He now says " I am in that frisky mood"
but he has some 'tools' now to help him cope better..if I stay calm-he gets calmer faster..
( hard to be calm all the time though!)
Not sure if this helps at all -good luck