Aspies For Freedom

Five Wrote:

Yetti Wrote:

What I also found is my husband and I love being together and we love time alone to be ourselves.. he is more likely to want me around always...��We also like our independance.. and we are not possessive.

So maybe the relational 9, see
http://www.9types.com/descr/baron2.html

It sounds like him but he does not blame others for things... but He does not privy me always to his throught process... he will relay the results but not how he thinks... and I am good with that.... And he loves being a part of a group yes... I do not... <G> HE use to think I was hurt by walking off to be by myself, since I learned I am an aspie.. he is relieved to know I actually enjoy myself alone with me , myself and I.. a group I love being with... Learning I am an aspie has helped.. now he knows I love being alone unless I ask to go... Smile

I told him when I am alone, me , myself and I have a Parteee and we open teh champaigne bottle and swing on the chandliere! <G>

Five Wrote:

Yetti Wrote:

What I also found is my husband and I love being together and we love time alone to be ourselves.. he is more likely to want me around always...��We also like our independance.. and we are not possessive.

So maybe the relational 9, see
http://www.9types.com/descr/baron2.html

It sounds like him but he does not blame others for things... but He does not privy me always to his throught process... he will relay the results but not how he thinks... and I am good with that.... And he loves being a part of a group yes... I do not... <G> HE use to think I was hurt by walking off to be by myself, since I learned I am an aspie.. he is relieved to know I actually enjoy myself alone with me , myself and I.. a group I love being with... Learning I am an aspie has helped.. now he knows I love being alone unless I ask to go... Smile

I told him when I am alone, me , myself and I have a Parteee and we open the champaigne bottle and swing on the chandliere, all 4 of us! <G>

I do love my time alone! Its called solitude.. but I can get lonely and that time I seek friends etc..

energeia Wrote:

Yetti, my parents had a long and happy marriage (55 years until my father's death).��She was a 1w2, he a 9w1.��I cannot imagine being married to either one of them, but they made it work, using many of the strategies you have written about.��She was the more dynamic of the two of them. It's really weird that people in your circle denigrate or want to break up your marriage.��I haven't seen that kind of thing with the people I hang out around (admittedly a rather nerdly and/or gay crowd). I think it's great when partners stay together.

Well I have learned Aspies are all differenteven your 1-9 ers.. We have so many other characteristics..

yes itsn't it amazing.. My husband and I compare notes when it happens... and discuss it.  He gets amused when people attack me for keeping my last name... that does not happen any more but it did 33 yrs ago.  Yes, people to our faces claimed our respect for each others and allow each otehr to travel alone as well as together as against GOD! LOL   AND then you get the youngsters who think they know everything.. its like gun fighters... They try to compare  their marriage to yours and hope to see misery..  Sad isn't it.!  Even former close friends of mine!   People can be conniving and evil and insecure.  We have been encountered by all kinds 33 yrs..

My husband is really the most successful of his HS class and several classes... He was considered a major nerd... Sweet kind nerd, they loved but never saw as any potential.  I saw something totally different and still do..

Several women have tried to make a pass at him.. as some men have done to me... we always tell each other...   One woman , the wife of his best friend from HS and college made a pass at him at the last reunion and then made a pass at ME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!  My husband was standing right there witnessing it.. it was not my imagination... We got a laugh out of that.. it was his best friends second wife...  Some people just can't pick the right people to marry I guess or whatever... It doesn't bother us, but we get a hoot out of people.. especially when they challenge our marriage...

We are black sheep and we like it!   And we produced a little black lamb who is engaged to a black lamb..   Yes we are a Bleeting family LOL

As a Deist, I do believe people MAKE their own misery.. You know.. I love being an aspie... I just wish I knew decades ago so I could have changed some of my thinking or refine it... I still have time Smile

I do want to help other aspies... This will be interesting... we shall see what comes of this all..   I do believe our educational system s*cks royally.

energeia Wrote:

Yetti, my parents had a long and happy marriage (55 years until my father's death).��She was a 1w2, he a 9w1.��I cannot imagine being married to either one of them, but they made it work, using many of the strategies you have written about.��She was the more dynamic of the two of them. It's really weird that people in your circle denigrate or want to break up your marriage.��I haven't seen that kind of thing with the people I hang out around (admittedly a rather nerdly and/or gay crowd). I think it's great when partners stay together.

My husband is dynamic in his own right... so am I.. we are very independant and we support each others individualism... we do not try to change ourselves but come to a comfort zone of team work when we need to and want to... We like it and cannot imagine being married to anyone else.. It works for us.

Max the Bear Wrote:

My short-hand on 1's and 8's is that a 1 says "Everyone must follow the rules, especially me" while and 8 says "Everybody has to follow MY rules -- except me!"

Now I really don't understand it! I think trying to figure out individuals with so many layers to their personality is like trying to "nail Jello to a wall".

Max the Bear Wrote:

Yetti, I had you figured for an 8 in your first few posts at AFF. Some people would say "takes one to know one."

There's such a thing as an "Eight style" and it's usually hard to miss. (Though sometimes a particularly problematic 1 or a counter-phobic 6 can look a lot like an 8 on the surface.)

You probably don't agree with everything in the 8 descriptions, but 8's seldom do. One thing that sometimes makes it hard for 8's to see themselves as 8's is that they are not really great at self-awareness. Plus, their favorite defense is Denial. (They especially deny being short on self-awareness. Wink

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I am not denying.. I am simply NOT understanding! I do think I am an 8 but not all the features... we humans are very complex and use what we need and depends how we develop.. esp at my age.. I am PLAID! LOL

I have peopel here swearing I am a one.. and in the next post swear I am an 8.... as I said.. I am PLaid.. just depends on the tartan mix <G>

Yetti Wrote:

Max the Bear Wrote:

Yetti, I had you figured for an 8 in your first few posts at AFF. Some people would say "takes one to know one."

There's such a thing as an "Eight style" and it's usually hard to miss. (Though sometimes a particularly problematic 1 or a counter-phobic 6 can look a lot like an 8 on the surface.)

You probably don't agree with everything in the 8 descriptions, but 8's seldom do. One thing that sometimes makes it hard for 8's to see themselves as 8's is that they are not really great at self-awareness. Plus, their favorite defense is Denial. (They especially deny being short on self-awareness. Wink

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I am not denying.. I am simply NOT understanding! I do think I am an 8 but not all the features... we humans are very complex and use what we need and depends how we develop.. esp at my age.. I am PLAID! LOL

I have peopel here swearing I am a one.. and in the next post swear I am an 8.... as I said.. I am PLaid.. just depends on the tartan mix <G>

INteresting you are stuck on denial label about me.. HOw many people my age are open enough to go to a psychiatrist and therapy to find out that they are aspies? How many are on this board? I am very open to suggestions but by the same token I am not a fool either. People read what they wish to read all too often. It all depends on the person I have learned...

The more I read on the board, the more I think I will just live my life out and not get involved with the aspergers movement.

I am just going to run with the bulls in Spain. It's safer. <G>

Yetti, I had you figured for an 8 in your first few posts at AFF. Some people would say "takes one to know one."

There's such a thing as an "Eight style" and it's usually hard to miss. (Though sometimes a particularly problematic 1 or a counter-phobic 6 can look a lot like an 8 on the surface.)

You probably don't agree with everything in the 8 descriptions, but 8's seldom do. One thing that sometimes makes it hard for 8's to see themselves as 8's is that they are not really great at self-awareness. Plus, their favorite defense is Denial. (They especially deny being short on self-awareness. )

Max the Bear Wrote:

Yetti Wrote:

INteresting you are stuck on denial label about me..

Stuck? ..about you? Gee, have I been typing in my sleep? Link me to my many discussions of Yetti the Denialist.

Leave the paranoia to the 6's, Yetti. I'm talking about characteristics of 8's. I don't personally care if you're in denial or in the merry old land of Oz. Argue with the Ennegram websites.

First its denial and now its paranoia? Hmmm the plot thickens.. Tell me more about myself... Smile

Max...................................................... Tongue

Max........................wanna meet after school on my turf? Tongue

I love being 56!

Yetti Wrote:

I love being 56!

Max = Elmer Fudd

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OTydGEYdVbE

Yetti = Bugs