Yetti, do you have something like this (like an 8): you do something fully, or not at all? You said you were madly in love. That's an example: with full energy, excessive. You can be "on" or "off", nothing in between?
My husband and I both said Yes. LOL he is getting sick of the questions 
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I don't know whether this link is already in this thread:
http://www.9types.com/descr/baron2.html
Yetti, in this link scroll down and read relational 8 to check your type.
I am Definitely an 8! That is me.... Yes!
My husband said he is totally aware of the Barons test.. finds it also like a palm reader <G> He does not stock value in these tests... <G>
I don't know whether this link is already in this thread:
http://www.9types.com/descr/baron2.html
Yetti, in this link scroll down and read relational 8 to check your type.
I am Definitely an 8! That is me.... Yes!
My husband said he is totally aware of the Barons test.. finds it also like a palm reader <G> He does not stock value in these tests... <G>
When I am passionate about something... i surround myself with it... if I am not, it does not exist.
My husband loves all the attention I give him and I love giving it.. He is very supportive of me and loves to help me... its seems to work very well... and balances us as a couple.. plus we have so much in common.
If you all want to take a different (somewhat better, I think) test, you can download one from the link below--it's an excel file so you can go back and look at your answers.
http://www.enneagramdimensions.net/whats_my_type.htm
On the other hand, it might be more fun to go see the Harry Potter movie!
(I don't think you're a 2, Yetti. But if you're an 8, then you have a connection to 2--as you feel safe and fulfilled, you'd be inclined to be generous towards the needs of others.)
I agree about Harry Potter!
My husband says he does not believe in this stuff... He said he is very "Unimpressed with the test or any value it may have."
If you know yourself well, you can avoid unnecessary misery. If you know other people well you can avoid conflicts and make communication much easier. Every type has a pinch, a button you don't want to push. If I know a person's type, I know what not to do. And I know what to do.
For example a 4, don't ignore a 4. Respond to email immediately.
The worst thing you can do to 5s is to break confidence.
Don't critize a 1.
Give 2s a compliment.
The list is endless.
Common 8 pinches: Injustice; Not dealing directly with issues; People not taking responsibility for their own behaviour; Another's lack of truthfulness. And I know what to say to every type when they have been pinched.
What about the value in giving feedback; in forming effective teams.
You argue with him.. I am not going to! LOL....
about helping people... my husbands family and mine always felt we should treat people with the human dignity God gave them at birth, if they want help... My mother always did this.. people remember her for her compassion when people are ill, physically and mentally. I think I inherited this from her.. my father , like my husband, are less likely to get involved... I am usually my husbands consscious... He tends not to act on appropriate actions .. he likes being at home with no intrusions... I like solitude but will open my home to those in need or organizations who need help.. so we are both a mixed bag ..but it works...
The 8:
I'm O.K. if I'm in charge.
You are O.K. if you let me be in charge.
So my strategy (at work) with 8s would be: let them lead, I follow.
.. but then again.. I am good with people who are dictators.. I can play their game.. I don't battle for who is king of the mountain unless my odds are good.. I weigh the individual situation.. I am a good team player..but I do take my place if I can to be the leader, more than my husband.
The 8:
I'm O.K. if I'm in charge.
You are O.K. if you let me be in charge.
So my strategy (at work) with 8s would be: let them lead, I follow.
.. but then again.. I am good with people who are dictators.. I can play their game.. I don't battle for who is king of the mountain unless my odds are good.. I weigh the individual situation.. I am a good team player..but I do take my place if I can to be the leader, more than my husband.
my husband loves that I take care of him.. his mother said he is spoiled... he does not take care of himself unless I lead... His brother is the same way......My sister in law is like me but we are totally different in interests and what is right and wrong.. but she has the same relationship with my husbands brother. ... I think their mom is right.....my daughter gets upset with him about this, especially when I have been phsycially ill. I do worry about him if I die. I told my daughter to be close to him should that happen...
(I don't think you're a 2, Yetti. But if you're an 8, then you have a connection to 2--as you feel safe and fulfilled, you'd be inclined to be generous towards the needs of others.)
Exactly. And under stress 8s behave more like 5s, become more silent and introvert, start thinking instead of doing.
Yup.. in HS my teachers told my mom, they did not even know I was in the classroom. My friends would say yeah until you get to know her then she never shuts up! LOL They said that lovingly of course. <G> My two sides are very evident... I watch and wait... I ahve to be comfortable with the people I am around, until then, I perform or I am very quiet... once I am comfortable my 8 comes out esp in sports.
When I am in the 5 mode... I am observing and calculating who everyone is and what the situation is... I am good at waiting and watching... and then I do get involved. IT takes some people off guard who think they have me pegged. I learned to do this early on as a child.
.. but then again.. I am good with people who are dictators.. I can play their game.. I don't battle for who is king of the mountain unless my odds are good.. I weigh the individual situation.. I am a good team player..but I do take my place if I can to be the leader, more than my husband.
There are 3 variables:
1. Type. For you 8 without a wing.
2. Instinctual variant: for you relational (or sexual). Not self preservation, not social. It's obvious, your posts contain references to sex.
3. Level of health. You being very healthy and very intelligent explains the quote above.
All we know it works for us.. we are very happy, that does not mean we never disagree.. we each have our strong opinions... and we have major political debates... choice of computer is an issue not discussed in this house for obvious reasons <G> We will butt heads.
as empty nesters we took off where we left off when our daughter was born.. and we had 7 yrs of being married iwth no children and love our time alone together too.... Some vacations we love together, some we do not... I dive, he sails... We try to work our vacations together because we love being around each other.. one day is fine but by the 3rd day... we miss each other... and make tons of phone calls.
We both loves dogs and love our dogs sleeping with us.. my husband says one big dog pile! LOL.
The one who remains behind will have a difficult time.. we will probably move near our daughter to be with our grandkids. We are all very close.
Our daughter is a combination of both of us... She just wants to be a dictator of a third world island.. where the central location is a mall and the armed services wear designer uniforms <G> She is an ambitious young woman, and people gravitate to her like they do my husband... She has very good people skills. She gets input from my husband and me, and has private conversations with us respectively for certain advice she feels we have to offer.
For me as a 5, it is good to think less and do more, especially physically. So I walk a lot, and indeed that makes me feel good. By doing more, following my body instincts and needs more, the result is I think less and feel more. Am more balanced.
For 8s, it will be good to do less and feel more for others, be compassionate and helpful, sensitive, loving. More like 2s (although 2s are not in balance, 2s don't think enough, 2s repress thinking). You already do that, so you are rather balanced already, healthy. A balance of doing, thinking and feeling. A less healthy 8 will over-do and under-feel.
This house believes in balance.. something I taught my daughter.. balance body, mind, and soul.
Our new house has an indoor pool to do laps via current fast lane.. we have a gym and a portable massage table.. we have one theraputical massage a month... we have about 75% azurlite glass and our front balcony projects into the branches of an oak tree.. like a tree house... We designed our new house for our empty nestdom for our health... we live near all our needs via walking... and I have a bult in aquarium in the bedroom wall which separate the sitting area from the bedroom ... and have aquariums which work into the design of the house all over.. I am into fish.. I also have lots of sphere 3'd/2'd painting I have done... the aquariums are like minimalist art work of shapes ..
We do believe in harmony.. iT is also fully automated... with many skylights and glass mosaics.. esp in the bath area and pool room.. the shower from the gym goes into the indoor pool room where nana doors can open it to the outside on good days and 3 huge automatic skylights which open to the sky..
Being an aspie , I am really into natural light... We even have an alarm that starts an hour early with a blue light which takes an hour to fullly come on before our alarm comes on....
I felt we worked ourselves when we were young to be able to afford a lifestyle condusive to healthy living at home in the middle of our metropolis... Its our private aspie compound... electronic gates , entries etc.. front has natural shrubs as privacy walls.
Yetti, I kind of doubt that your husband's a 2--I bet he's a 9. If he thinks that some of every type applies to him, he's more likely to be a 9. Just my guess.
Five--I'm guessing soc/sp/sx for Yetti. She found her Mr Right and is happy with him, which Sx last folks are certainly capable of doing. I'm guessing her major energy thrust is mainly towards the world, hence the strong type 1 score, rather than needing the juice provided by intense one-on-one interactions.
(Yetti--people discuss others' E type often--it's a way of understanding both people and the system better.....and it's fun. Hope you're not insulted--I don't get the sense that you mind this.)
OMG... my husband and I are not insulted in the least.. Goodness. There is nothing on the net that really insults us . Often when I write or speak someone may think I have intense emotion behind it.. I don't . I tend to be very energy oriented with passion.. I do think it comes from my theatre... which do use in my lectures... I love multimedia and performances and exchange..
I tend to be very tactical... my husband does too.. its hard to get our goat.. esp together.. we take the world like two divers surfacing.. back to back and shark poles in front . <G>
I think this is thought provoking and fun. My husband thinks its fun and not to be taken seriously.
After 33 yrs.. we have had people try to break our marriage or attack us. IT amazes us that our marriage by its very existance is an affront to so many people.. He and I chat about it after these encounters and often try to figure out why these people have such a need. We have gotten to the point we enjoy to see them get all bent out of shape over our happiness.. WE stopped trying to figure out why! We need entertainment <G>
IN the early days I almost had to take an optomitrist office to court because they refused to stop using MRS. since I kept my last name. In our state we Choose our own titles or none at all.. This was always a battle at the beginning of our marriage...
and the number of people who tried to make sexual advances towards us.. we always came home and told the other about it... It bothered some we were inseparable. I think because he and I were the black sheep in our respective famillies and we loved it.. Black sheep who have something in common with you are rare indeed! We were jewels to each other...
My husband is what he is.. He is charming, loving, but lives in his own world too... but people gravitate to him, especially women... One judge I worked with saw him outside the lawschool with circle of women around him.. and asked me "Arent you worried about the women?" I said"NAH! as long as they are standing outside in a circle LOL I was use to it and I know , my husband would NEVER find anyone like me! "
Our door to our marriage is not locked (this does not mean sex..we are faithful). We are not possessive but very trusting, but once one leaves, it never reopens... We are very loyal to each other and see ourselves our best friends, lovers , etc.. our child bonds us even more. We can't wait to be grandparents...
What is amazing and I muse myself... my husband was so skinny in HS and he was not popular as he was a nerd... Now all those women look at him for his Bankaccount and success and wonder what they missed..you can see it in their eyes.. and how they treat him now.. I saw his beauty the first moment i met him in my last year in college and viceversa.. I thought him to be very handsome and still think that today, inside and out.
We worked very hard to always communicate . I had a rule we never go to bed angry, and I always hugged and kissed my family... because I never knew if something could happen to them.. I wanted them to feel love and trust. Consequently we are very close as a family unit.
What I also found is my husband and I love being together and we love time alone to be ourselves.. he is more likely to want me around always... We also like our independance.. and we are not possessive.