Aspies For Freedom

"You're so shy at first, but when you open up it's hard to get you to shut up!"
"You ask so many questions"
"You ask such random questions"
"You have the most random comments"
"Liz, maybe you shouldn't be saying that so loud in public!  Can you wait until we're alone before we talk about this?!"
"It takes you so long to answer a question!  Why do you put so much thought into it?"
"You really have a way with animals"
"You DREW that?!  How can you do that?  I could never draw like that in a million years!  You make it look so real!"
"When I first met you, I thought you were an innocent little goody-goody.  But then later I found out you're not.  You're not that innocent."
"Liz, you're so naive and gullible!  Why do you trust everybody?  You can't leave your stuff laying around cuz people will steal it!"
"Why do you take everything so literally?  Why can't you take a joke?"
"Liz, maybe you should CENSOR your thoughts a little.  Watch what you say in public."
"Why do you keep shaking your leg?  Are you nervous or something?"
"Can you STOP shaking your leg and tapping your foot?  That's really bugging me."
"Why do you never ask people for help?  Why do you have to do everything by yourself?  Let me help you with that!"
"You don't have to do it perfectly and concentrate on every last little detail.  Let's just try to get it done quickly."
"You don't show a lot of emotion on your face."
"You look like you're really deep in thought, like you're concentrating really hard on something."
"Why are you so easily startled?  Calm down"
"Why are you sitting here in the dark?  Turn on some lights."  (I hate bright fluorescent lights)
"You actually LIKE this weather?" (I love humidity and 90 degree weather)
"Why do you still have your coat on?  Why don't you take it off and stay for a while?  It's not that cold in here"
"Why are you not scared of bees?"

Oh hey, I forgot to mention these:

"Why don't you have a boyfriend?  I don't see why you don't have a boyfriend.  

"You're pretty.  You're nice.  What are you waiting for?  Go and find a boyfriend!"

"You've only had ONE boyfriend?  Why?  Why haven't you had more?"

"Do you want to be an old maid or something?"

I always took it as a compliment too.

About what other people think of me... well, some friends have told me that when they knew me they thought I didn't like them at all or that I was very arrogant... also, people usually ask me if I'm sad or something when I'm not, that's really annoying.

the opposite sex thing applies to me, too. guys are almost always been nice to me, but females usually ignore (if i'm lucky) or are horrible to me. i've never met an aspie girl, maybe that would go better. the whole competitive thing between women boggles me.

would you stop (bouncing your leg, chewing that pen, making that sound, spinning that, talking to yourself, etc., etc., etc.!!!).
you're a freak.
why do you make things so hard for yourself?
you have so much potential.
don't you want to go out with friends?
are you on drugs?
eat something, you look gross. (are other aspies picky eaters?)
you're so beautiful.
you're embarrassing me.
no one would ever marry you.
don't you want people to like you?
you're my muse.
you make people uncomfortable.
that's not appropriate.
no one wants you here.
you'd be so popular if you'd just stop acting so retarded.
you're exceptional.
you're a drain on society- like the town fool.
you're gifted.
you're a sociopath.
they should put you in a cage and sell tickets.
jesus christ, i was only joking!
why don't you ever smile?
what are you grinning at?
look at me when i'm talking to you!
stop staring!

luckily, most of my interests lie in things related to the arts- so people often put my eccentricities down to the "artistic temperament". this makes my life SO much easier.

I'm not really sure what other people think of me.  I used to care what other people think of me but these days it doesn't really matter anymore.  I voted 'Maybe', just in case people's opinion's of me aren't that great.

My mother
"If your nice to them they'll be nice to you" (why should I be nice to some1 who wont give me the time of day for no reason)
"You shouldnt say those mean things about them" (Ok u obviously have no idea what their saying about me)
"I was hoping ud make more friends at high school" (I made 3 friends isnt that enough for u... Why would I want to be friends with ppl like *that*)
"You should socialise more" (I dont have a license & I dont want to have to get driven everywhere, they already think Im strange if they see my mother still drives me everywhere it'll just get worse)
That was the general gist of it when I was in High School. She dont bother telling me to socialise anymore cos she knows it isnt gonna happan

1 of my friends from Primary School was in the semi-popular group & Id go to her house quite often, she got called on the phone alot & shed never say my name, she always labeled me as "A Family Friend" which always hurt my feelings, I didnt say anything but still.. 1 time she was chatting on MSN when I arrived & she told 1 of her friends I came over  & they said "He's Creepy"??? I would have expected pretty much anything *but* creepy. off, strange, anti-social maybe. But creepy, she dont even know me why does she think Im creepy?? When people talked to me at school Id be polite & make small talk if required (can only do that cos of my meds). My motto was as long as their nice to me I'll be nice to them. So where she got creepy from I dont know, sure I wasnt very social but I was nice/polite like 99% of the time...

Also in High School they gave me a helper assitent but u know what. I was smarter then she was. I had her in computing (no idea why they thought Id need help there, my best grades were always in computing) & some other class. In computing by the end of the 1st week she was asking *me* how to do the assignments & always asked to look at my work to make sure the other ppl she was helping were doing it right. I even taught her how to do a bunch of stuff she had no clue about.. In the other class I didnt need her either, she was completly useless. She should be sacked already she had no clue what she was doin...

Sometimes I would be told to Cheer Up! and other times, people would bug me saying "Oh, Crystal, what's wrong." I would say "nothing" and they would nag me because they didn't believe that nothing was wrong. I remember screaming at people that there was nothing wrong with me, until they insisted that there was, and now I'm mad because they wouldn't leave me alone.
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Another aspie trait I didn't even know I had! I was always "thinking" and that always bugged people... that or the face I made always bugged people. I finally seemed to learn to smile while drifting off to "my world" and that kinda helped. At least they didn't think I was depressed anymore...

Friends I had known for years always told me that I seemed like a real B**** but now that they know me that think I'm really funny. (I've taken funny for wierd in this instance.) We moved recently and it seems like the people I've been meeting now think I'm "really laid back" which is funny. I have a 2YO and 4YO, I'm so overprotective of them that I actually overcompensate my maladaptives and do my very best to not freak out when I want/need to... giving the impression of laid back. Which is so funny... considering that I consider myself pretty uptight about things being just so... I always think its wierd that people have such a completely different view of me then how I really am. I don't know how to fix that, I guess people will always misinterpret what I say and do as being me.