Bluntly honest describes me quite well. Just curious if everyone else out there is extremely honest. (I do it mostly because I want them to go away, or I just don't care.) Though now whenever someone asks me something about personal information I lie...god I love my lack of visible emotions!
personal information about yourself or other people?
Sometimes people will tell me that I give out too much information about myself or other people. Sometimes people also tell me that I ask the wrong questions, too personal. It's rude. So then why do people ask me those personal questions?
What are rules about what is too personal?
I wish I knew.
Maybe the problem is just that everyone is different, and it depends on the situation. Some people will tell you anything, and others wouldn't even tell you whether they're married or what their first name is.
I'm not very good at figuring out what's appropriate though.
It's rare that I lie and I avoid being blunt with people when they annoy me but sometimes it's hard to stop myself. Once my cousin asked me if what she was wearing made her look fat and I replied "yes". I was young and have learnt to approach this kind of situation better.
One girl I know likes that I can help her choose shoes, I get bored of shopping after a few minutes especially if I havn't got much money but It's easy to say if the shoes look good on her or not.
I tell people things like "I'm going for a poo" and I always admit to farting because It's not something that bothers me.
When I was a kid, mom always bragged about how honest I was. I still am. Honesty does not necessarily mean having to say what you are thinking or having to give personal information. You can be a very honest person but not be willing to post your credit card number to the world.
People often say my humor is either "dry" (due to my under reacting) or that it is "outrageous" (due to being overly blunt). I enjoy getting them to laugh. It makes me more comfortable and I get away with a lot of things I say because people consider it humor.
personal information about yourself or other people?
Sometimes people will tell me that I give out too much information about myself or other people. Sometimes people also tell me that I ask the wrong questions, too personal. It's rude. So then why do people ask me those personal questions?
What are rules about what is too personal?
To reply to your question, I googled to find an etiquette list online of what questions are "too personal". There are many lists but they are very situation dependant. What is "too personal" to ask your classroom teacher is a different list from what is "too personal" to ask your parents. And you don't ask your parents some of the questions you might ask a lover or spouse. There would be a different list for workplace etiquette, etc..
Let me also add that what someone feels is too personal varies by the person and their upbringing. For example, my upbringing dictates that detailed discussion of health issues or financial status is inappropriate. Someone else might see nothing wrong with those topics.
Bluntly honest describes me quite well. Just curious if everyone else out there is extremely honest. (I do it mostly because I want them to go away, or I just don't care.) Though now whenever someone asks me something about personal information I lie...god I love my lack of visible emotions!
I'm the same. my friends appreciate my honesty although I have learnt not to say exactly what I think, my mum used to tell me I was tactless all the time. but I also tend to say I'm fine if anyone asks how I am.
It is meant to be an aspie trait. How do you feel about lies and white lies?
I'm blunty honest. To the point of telling a girl who was asking me for a date the truth to the question: "Do you like another girl?". I said yes. And she asked who. And I reply the truth. She hasn't speak with me since then
And I don't care. I don't like she and I knew that she and I will never be a good couple. Maybe I should have reply a lie? I thought doing it when she asked me, but I thought that there is no reason to hate me for that. She replied that she, the girl I liked, has a boyfriend. I just reply "and?" I think she was very upset
She is a very NT person whose interests doesn't have any similarities with mines. Relations between us would be impossible, ¿a date? please....jaja
But I have a doubt. Should I reply with a lie to a question like that, or it is better the truth?. And, why did she asked if she didn't want to hear the asnwer? NTs....
The term "white lie" is always used by parents in defense of their own lying; ARGH! That's the worst of all lies. I try not to lie and sometimes I just withhold information saying that I don't know or can't say exactly.
Its also used to not hurt other peoples feelings although I think the truth however hard is actually more beneficial
I'm blunty honest. To the point of telling a girl who was asking me for a date the truth to the question: "Do you like another girl?". I said yes. And she asked who. And I reply the truth. She hasn't speak with me since then And I don't care. I don't like she and I knew that she and I will never be a good couple. Maybe I should have reply a lie? I thought doing it when she asked me, but I thought that there is no reason to hate me for that. She replied that she, the girl I liked, has a boyfriend. I just reply "and?" I think she was very upset
She is a very NT person whose interests doesn't have any similarities with mines. Relations between us would be impossible, ¿a date? please....jaja
But I have a doubt. Should I reply with a lie to a question like that, or it is better the truth?. And, why did she asked if she didn't want to hear the asnwer? NTs....
I think the truth is better at least she knows where she stands with you. Although you could have expanded on why you didn't want to date her, as you said above, she might have taken it better.
Hell i'm blunt to people, and I make sure that I expect the same of them. Honesty is better than beating around the bush, you know?!
You know how some people are compulsive liars? Well I'm a compulsive truth-teller! I can bend the truth a little, but it's really hard for me to flat out lie. I try to be nice, but sometimes I guess some people think I seem like a (female dog).
I couldnt lie until I was around 12, it never occured to me to do it. But Id always think 'I should have lied & gotten out of that' so I started teaching myself when to lie & how to do it, it just didnt come naturally to me. I can lie without even thinking about it now, though it took about 2 years of learning how & when to do it.
Im still bruteally honest though, 1 of my friends sisters gets upset easily, she seems to take everything the wrong way, I'll say something that noone else around even considers a bad remark & she'll have a hissy fit & start saying how I've hurt her feelings & Im such a mean guy. Every other person she knows would say sorry at that point & end it but im like "ahh i dont care" & walk off.
I also correct my friends when their wrong, I think we're having a civial disscussion & my friends get annoyed/angry & hang up the phone & I get a message from them later saying they didnt want to fight with me.... I didnt even know we were having a fight, I cant pic up the changes in their tone until their quite angry & by that time they've usually hung up.
I've improved quite a lot as well. When I was in year 8 at school I started hanging around with a girl (my friend became her friend in Art class so she ended up sitting with us) & for the whole year we constantly had arguments & didnt get along overly well. Shes a very moody person & gets upset easily. After about 9 months I started figuring out what set her off & what didnt. When year 9 started we got on much better, because Id always stop myself from saying stuff. I've applied what I had to learn for her to most people now. Though sometimes stuff slips out or I dont have time to stop myself. So thanks to my bitchy friend my social understanding improved alot.
I tell stories as well, we'll be in a convo & i suddenly start saying why they should or shouldnt do things & how the gods will punish them if they do bad things or Aliens will invade the earth & general nonsnese. The funny thing is I dont believe in Alien's & i dont know wat I believe when it comes to religeos things but hey. 1 of my friends edges me on alot of the time which is fun & she'll ask how she'll get punished & then start her own story about how she'll obtain magic powers from the gods by accident & defend herself from their divine fury ^^ .. Its weird cos sometimes her younger bro is listening & is just like wtf r the two of going on about lol.
I've learnt how to censor myself & do it alot but sometimes I tell it like it is. Espically if I know their wrong I'll start lecturing them about why their wrong & if they think their right & tell me I'll just tell them the truth & explain why what their saying is wrong. 1 of my friends doesnt like it when I do that but its almost a complusive thing espically if it's about an anime. & Im right 99% of the time cos I back it up with facts & stuff which annoys people when their sure their right & i prove to them their not.