03-12-2007, 03:02 PM
03-12-2007, 04:16 PM
Too bad he went to college thinking he would have a good time and make "life-long" friends. I went to university to get an education. I lived at home and didn't expect anything else. I did have "friends" who needed to copy my work though and disappeared on the weekends.
We will never be "indistinguishable from our peers" no matter what therapies or treatments or special help in school.
Too bad this young man had such a bad experience. He did try to make friends.
We will never be "indistinguishable from our peers" no matter what therapies or treatments or special help in school.
Too bad this young man had such a bad experience. He did try to make friends.
03-12-2007, 04:38 PM
I liked that article. What he went through was bad, but he came to a happy anti-cure conclusion. 
03-13-2007, 06:39 AM
i have some thoughts on this. i'll reply later when i have more rest. but in short, i went to college for education, not soicalzation as many of my friends seem to do every week.
03-13-2007, 10:17 PM
Daniel Passantino Wrote:
Barely two weeks of the semester had passed before loose bunches of students crystallized into cliques.
That was so true of my experience! But when I wrote home to my parents they dismissed my concerns just like that, saying that it was far too early to worry about not making friends...
03-13-2007, 10:30 PM
What this college kid went throught was nothing compared to my own college experience. In one dorm I stayed in, I was ostracized by the entire floor. They drew caricatures of me on the elevator walls and elsewhere with insulting captions. They called me all sorts of names. One time this guy named Kirk Yagi threw a trash can at me. It hit me on the head and I knocked out. I moved out of there after a semester. I did find a few friends who were misfits like me, accepted me and I felt comfortable around although I don't think they had AS.
03-13-2007, 10:33 PM
03-13-2007, 11:05 PM
okay, rested up and ready to post. i first read this at 2 am and was so tired i couldn't say much.
i didn't really have any bad experinces in college, a couple of isolated incidents and some of the guys rode my bike for fun and played pranks, but i was mad, mostly becuase of past experinces in public school. most people accepted my quirky style, as the school was a bit open (not hippie type, but not totally strict) to me and everyone liked me, i was like one of the popular students. but i kidna struck out on going out, although i didn't want to go out much, as i spent most of my time studying. i also tended to want a space for myself once in a while.
i didn't really have any bad experinces in college, a couple of isolated incidents and some of the guys rode my bike for fun and played pranks, but i was mad, mostly becuase of past experinces in public school. most people accepted my quirky style, as the school was a bit open (not hippie type, but not totally strict) to me and everyone liked me, i was like one of the popular students. but i kidna struck out on going out, although i didn't want to go out much, as i spent most of my time studying. i also tended to want a space for myself once in a while.
03-13-2007, 11:06 PM
Nts aren't bad people. We're just as capable of being arse-holes. There's lots of times people have made effort with me and i've withdrawn into a comfort zone through not feeling able to deal with it. Sure I felt like I had to at the time, but equally I could have made a real effort and didn't. They probably felt upset about that, for a minute or two... It's not like they don't have a whole load of their own problems about communicating with us.
Great article though.
I find it interesting what a few of you say about universities and what they're for. Today I had my appointment with the gp. He was worried about getting me assessed now because i am going to be at the end of term soon which I didn't really undersatand but he decided to go ahead with it in the end anyway so I await information in the post. I mention it because at one point when i was describing my problems and the fact that I don't make friends easily he said jokingly,'...and you decided to move away to university!' Even doctors, who surely must have taken university education seriously, apparently now see them as no more than social events. At least he took Asperger's seriously.
Great article though.
I find it interesting what a few of you say about universities and what they're for. Today I had my appointment with the gp. He was worried about getting me assessed now because i am going to be at the end of term soon which I didn't really undersatand but he decided to go ahead with it in the end anyway so I await information in the post. I mention it because at one point when i was describing my problems and the fact that I don't make friends easily he said jokingly,'...and you decided to move away to university!' Even doctors, who surely must have taken university education seriously, apparently now see them as no more than social events. At least he took Asperger's seriously.