I love to be alone but when forced i do like to spend some time with close friends. Most are used to me now but everyonce in awhile someone will get mad/sad that i'm so distant. My favorite cousin is currently very mad at me for not calling her/communicating often. When we were younger we saw eachother 3-4 times a year but now with recent changes we are lucky to see each other even once. I really love and care for her but she just doesn't believe me. Still even this is barely enough to get me to call her.
As far as how long i "disappear" i'm pretty much distant all the time unless someone forces themselves upon me or i get so lonely (rare) that i seek them out. aside from seeing people in school, i never talk to them really. they say i should get out more -_-' (but there's not much to do here anyway)
I hate to be disturbed at home (like people coming over) so i guess that's when i disappear...
My entire life could be considered a disappearing act. It wasn't until my late twenties ( I'm 30 now) that I begun to understand that my behavior was different. I have a greater sense of self-awareness today, and thankfully I'm well beyond any feelings of guilt associated with my disappearing. None of my family or past friends have many of the qualities that can sustain me. I do a better job of sustaining myself.
Strangely just at the time that I have achieved a greater understanding of myself, and the world around me, there is scarcely a person that I want to share this new 'self-aware me' with. Friendships just for the sake of friendship aren't a rewarding situation for me at all.
Days, weeks, sometimes years. Time is just another thing for the normals to worry about. When the universe decides it, I meet people again. If I had the energy to worry about how long I disappear for, I'd have the energy to not disappear in the first place.
Let me tell you though, there are few thrills quite like spotting someone you havn't seen in half a decade or more in a coffee shop or whatever and just walking up, saying hello and sitting down like no time at all has passed. Always seems to give them such a thrill to see me again, although I suppose I don't really understand why.
Donal
Aspergers, Dyslexia and more issues than a newsstand.
Which is a good thing. Most people I meet could use more irony in their diet.
Donal
Aspergers, Dyslexia and more issues than a newsstand
I went to the other side of the world for 10 months and phoned home twice. Only because I got robbed (twice) and had no money.
At my old haunts I had one friend who by his own accounts is PDD-NOS but very intelligent. Although I tend to seek not overtly emotional types as friends, I was unaware of his diagnosis until very recently when I read his autobiography...and was shocked. I also had one long distance normie friend, the long distance part having occurred when he moved away. This one recently stopped bothering with me after 10 years which lead to some personal upset. In addition, I had this other acquaintance that I would drop in on unannounced who regularly had friends over for talk and suds about 3 times a year.
I've only had two regular girl-friends ever due to feelings of being emotionally smothered, and/or phobias about my social skill set.
I currently have only one acquaintance, and live far out in the country where not much else happens.
But, I am studying to re-enter the profession and that's where I draw my inspiration, hope, and strength.
And what profession might that be?
I don't want to give out too much personal info on the net, Batman. I have worked as a professional, and did have a very good job before going back to school full-time.
Again, I can see myself pictured in my As-peer-gers.
I can not recall a single time I have try to pay a visit to a friend out of my own will. It seems that if there is not any external influence that compels me to hang with friends, then I just never feel the need for. Now I realize that because of this, I may have lost a lot of acquaintances during the years. Nevertheless, thanks to all you guys, from now on I will try to stay in touch with the people I know and somewhat appreciate.
And I was just wondering why my friends just tended to forget about me!
(I really don't know if should even use the word friends. I have never felt a real connection with anyone, they are just people I hang around with.)
totally agree
Most of the people I know tend to disappear for months and then suddenly call me to meet them. It's a normal thing when you get out of college and definitely not typical for Aspies.
Necrobump?
anyway, I still do it. its what split me and my Ex up
Nearly split US up
....yeah, but thats just a friendship
hows your girlfriend these days?