Well I was at this public dance at my local recreation center, when I got in I was a laughed at by some of the Chav kids. I was a loner for most of the time. This had to be the worst one yet. One really good friend of mine didn't show, and I have friends who have other groups of friends, leaving me alone. I was angry, depressed, confused, and out-of-place the whole time. I was lightly banging my head against the wall for certain periods of time when I was alone, and when I was sitting at this table by myself, I just let out this semi loud "UGH" sound. These girls approached me and said "Why don't you talk more?" I said "Nobody is coming up to me and talking", they said "Why don't you start the convo?" Replied with "It's hard for me to do that." They then said it was easy, and I said otherwise. Some people went up to me and talked, briefly. I was saying how I should leave and etc, I was not having a good time at all. If I was emotional, I would've cried, but I don't cry easily, and i'm not emotional. Every time I went near these semi-good friends of mine, they went off with these other friends of theres. I would've went, but I would've felt like an idiot wasting my time. The music was horrible too, then again, it always is. I detest rap music. I feel that if this keeps up, I may end up losing friends, which would effect me socially, and drive my parents crazy. Hopefully it was just a bad night.
I feel your pain. Whenever I go to dances, or any social gathering, my friends always hang out with their other friends, some of them which I don't know. I end up dancing alone in the back of the room, and nobody even tries talking to me. I have dificulty starting conversations, and always need someone else to do it for me. I agree that most rap music is awful. I also can't stand anything that has a slow beat or a lack of tune.
I know the feeling, many years ago when I was 14ish I went to my first proper dance - punk. The experience totally put me off dancing, I thought for life - I was laughed at by all the cool people and spent the entire time on my own.
Yet, by the time I was 18 I totally loved dancing and had a good bunch of mates that I could go with. The major problem for us with dances is that communication is out - you just can't hear yourself talk and listening to others with all the distractions is pretty much impossible.
I found rave culture to be pretty amazing, as everyone is totally and only into dancing. Nobody cares what you look like or how sweaty you get. I'm hoping to organise a couple of raves this year. I'm organising one music festival too. Interestingly, I've discovered that there seems to be a high proportion of aspies that come to my events which means they are pretty cool - aspies rarely fight or get out of hand when they are having fun.
Just remember to go with what you like doing and not what you think others want you to do and you won't go far wrong.
On 2005 when we was on the Skirlington caravan centre we had a dance on the disco i was like you Mguy.
But we came to meet Grandma on 2006
Hmm, I have just recently been to my first dance and it was stupid. I did not dance at all, owing to the fact that I CAN'T dance. It's one of those things I NEVER EVER EVER DO and may NEVER EVER EVER learn.
The music was terrible, being really bad mainstream gangsta rap. I would have tolerated it had it been at a conversationable volume level. I also had to remain as far away from the speaker as possible because it was so loud. I don't know how the DJ can stand that thing. THERE WAS NO ROCK ON HIS PLAYLIST AT ALL. I was very annoyed.
So I hung out with the other guys who disliked the dance. That included Zack, who was in the corner anyway because he was the bartender. I was sitting nearby ant starting at him, having already accepted that he was the new Vo then. I got a change to act like idiots with Zack and his friend Joe.
The one dance I ever went to was at my school. There was apparently a "60s" theme, which meant that in additionto music that was so loud that it was impossible to hear what anyone was saying, there were also disco lights flashing all over the place.
The one dance I ever went to was at my school. There was apparently a "60s" theme, which meant that in additionto music that was so loud that it was impossible to hear what anyone was saying, there were also disco lights flashing all over the place.
O.O >.< O.O >.< O.O
*has an epileptic seizure*
(No, I don't get epileptic seizures, I just have a hatred for bright flashing lights)
middle school dances are stupid. Homecomming was ok though cause I had a date, but we had to "freak" dance, it's not allowed and you can get kicked out for it, but you have to do it if you're on a date or people call you names and stuff. Well my date liked dancing like that anyways. I liked dressing up, putting on makeup, and getting my hair and nails done the best part.
Yeah, dancing has never been very easy, the first disco in primary school (I think - this may have been the second)didn't go very well at first. People just laughed at me due to what I was wearing (Red shorts and shirts - Sort of pink like - you can see the mistake, since I'm a guy). I stayed sat at the edge for a good bit until the DJ noticed and let me come to the set up he used (you know, the music system) and he let me help. It quite liked that.
Much more recently, I went to 2 birthday parties near the end of my sixth form (I'm 20 now). At first I had trouble, but I got into the swing of things later on, and those turned out to be great parties (to note, sixth form was a big boost in confidence - I actually got to know a large group of people in a nice way - not exactly close friends, but we all knew each other). I haven't really been to any dances since. Not bothered, but I do try try to mix in. I sometimes wonder why I bother though, since I tend to feel like an outsider half the time (at least).
I went to one dance at my school, and I haven't cared to go to one ever since. I liked the music (I like any music), but I had nothing to do, my friend ignored me... the most frustrating thing was, I could've just left the dance and walked home, but they locked everyone in. Plus, the wrist band got stuck on my hand and by the time I cut it off my hand was all cold.
middle school dances are stupid.
When Bad Aspies die and go to hell, I'm sure hell will be one big eternity-long middle school dance.
(Because god, as we know, is very talented at thinking up insufferable tortures)
Max The Bear, too right. School dances were torture for me too. I usually liked the music but only one guy ever asked me to dance. Mum still talks years later about how kind he was to do that.
Luckily, rock and pop were the music that was "in". I like some rap but not all this stupid gangsta stuff with talk about ho's and pimps. A lot of R'N'B is boring because it doesn't have a proper tune. I like guitar hero rock and there are plenty of good bands around who do that kind of music but I don't know if they would be played much at school dances.
We didn't have proms back in those days but there were deb balls. I was too geeky and uninterested in clothes and make-up to go to the deb ball and couldn't dance anyway.
I hated with a passion being a wallflower but that was the way things were - it was the outgoing girls who got noticed. Mind you, one of my friend's fathers commented that I looked nice one night and she gave me sour looks and kept away from me till it was time to go home.
So, to summarise, school dances were hard for the shy kids 20 and 30 years ago, so it's no surprise they still are.
The music was terrible, being really bad mainstream gangsta rap. I would have tolerated it had it been at a conversationable volume level. I also had to remain as far away from the speaker as possible because it was so loud. I don't know how the DJ can stand that thing. THERE WAS NO ROCK ON HIS PLAYLIST AT ALL. I was very annoyed.
That sort of noise doesn't even classify as 'music' anymore (even by definition). As a DJ myself, I constantly see other DJ's, especially at high school dances and other 'teen' events screw up badly. Throw in some odd 70s disco and still everyone's jumping and enjoying themselves (Meat Loaf - Paradise By The Dashboard Light is an all time classic, and always will be). That, combined by most DJ's having the notion that 'putting the music louder will get the crowd going' results in some serious party screw-ups. I can't understand what current listeners see in todays hip hop and R&B. I mean, in the 90s, hip hop was still what it is suppose to be, hip hop.
As far as the DJ being able to cope with the loudness: Most DJ's are clever and point the main speakers AWAY from themselves. Since you're wearing headphones 90% of the times behind the turntables, you won't need them. Any sound leaking back to the main stage is more than enough monitor.
By contrast: If you want a 'geek style' dance to make up for this crap, go visit sci-fi conventions. 
Wow, a lot of people here don't like R&B. I do.
But I get annoyed when it's too loud, yes.
I hope they play Information Society, rock for nerds.