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Ian Wrote:
He's handsome isn't he Tongue would you believe he's 60? many people, inculding myself believe he's how i'm gonna look when i'm older lol.

Might have him as my next av.. lol

Ian


i think a bunch of you are cute.i'm not telling who.Tongue

cuz i did.

seven Wrote:
i dont get crushes.
and once in a blue moon, when i do.. bad things happen, becuase i have such horrable taste xD

i kinda ian except that when were "all grown up" were obviously going to be arch rival types.
i could probably crush on lemonzest.
and me and darkhorse are hanging out this weekend, maybe going to be freinds, or who knows maybe well click.

but really, i dont get crushes, so nothing too interesting will come from me.


I am sure several of the females on AFF have a thing for me.  Wink

Sean Weintz Wrote:

DigiModify Wrote:

theosoph Wrote:
Unfortunately for me, woman can seem to tolerate me long.


Did you mean CAN'T tolerate? I don't see any guy feeling sorry because women can tolerate them for a long time.


I used to have a gay freind that had a real classic chiseled body and boyish face. Girls would flock to him. Thing was, he was not only gay, but the misogynist from hell. (he was a pretty stereotypical leather butch type)

He HATED it when girls would flirt with him. He'd usually make some rude piscene related comment when it would happen.


I am in the somewhat odd situation where I am actually quite good looking, but girls don't really flirt with me.

Or maybe they do but since I have such difficulty reading/understanding signals, such as eye contact and more abstract subtle communications, it doesn't go beyond that because I am not reciprocating properly.  I think this may be the case, as I have learned a few subtle signals over the years and observed them, but I don't if or how I can respond to them.

Michael 1 Wrote:
Bob, you look OK. Maybe change your clothes. Your personality is not to bad either. Girls like nice, but matched with some determination and self respect. Just learn to be your own best friend. You have to be prepared to take risks. you say you are ready for rejection, so take some risks.


Okay but how is it you're able to give him that kind of advice, seeing as you admitted (like me) that you haven't been with a girl?

I would like to get with a girl but not for longterm emotional purposes, I know my limits.  I have more problems with emotional regulation than most Aspies I have talked to, both here and elsewhere.

Even though girls like nice clothing, I really could care less.  I've been wearing the same monotone sweatshirts for 8 years now, quite deliberately, because it's comically strange to see someone have no interest in clothes, at all.  I do it on purpose.

Michael 1 Wrote:

Batman55 Wrote:

Michael 1 Wrote:
Bob, you look OK. Maybe change your clothes. Your personality is not to bad either. Girls like nice, but matched with some determination and self respect. Just learn to be your own best friend. You have to be prepared to take risks. you say you are ready for rejection, so take some risks.


Okay but how is it you're able to give him that kind of advice, seeing as you admitted (like me) that you haven't been with a girl?

I would like to get with a girl but not for longterm emotional purposes, I know my limits.  I have more problems with emotional regulation than most Aspies I have talked to, both here and elsewhere.

Even though girls like nice clothing, I really could care less.  I've been wearing the same monotone sweatshirts for 8 years now, quite deliberately, because it's comically strange to see someone have no interest in clothes, at all.  I do it on purpose.


Because its an opinion based on things I've read, seen on TV, etc. Anyway I said a few posts later that for me to comment as I did wasn't right. The fact I am single does mean I have no idea about relationships. In life most people I come accross assume I am married or have a girl friend. They are often shocked when I tell them I am single and live with my parents. I've just learnt how to dress and behave in order to fit in. Its not me, but then I don't always want to be me.


You're right, it does mean you have no idea about relationships.  I thought I was onto something.

Michael 1 Wrote:

Batman55 Wrote:

Michael 1 Wrote:

Batman55 Wrote:

Michael 1 Wrote:
Bob, you look OK. Maybe change your clothes. Your personality is not to bad either. Girls like nice, but matched with some determination and self respect. Just learn to be your own best friend. You have to be prepared to take risks. you say you are ready for rejection, so take some risks.


Okay but how is it you're able to give him that kind of advice, seeing as you admitted (like me) that you haven't been with a girl?

I would like to get with a girl but not for longterm emotional purposes, I know my limits.  I have more problems with emotional regulation than most Aspies I have talked to, both here and elsewhere.

Even though girls like nice clothing, I really could care less.  I've been wearing the same monotone sweatshirts for 8 years now, quite deliberately, because it's comically strange to see someone have no interest in clothes, at all.  I do it on purpose.


Because its an opinion based on things I've read, seen on TV, etc. Anyway I said a few posts later that for me to comment as I did wasn't right. The fact I am single does mean I have no idea about relationships. In life most people I come accross assume I am married or have a girl friend. They are often shocked when I tell them I am single and live with my parents. I've just learnt how to dress and behave in order to fit in. Its not me, but then I don't always want to be me.


You're right, it does mean you have no idea about relationships.  I thought I was onto something.


You were onto nothing. You only know the answer because I gave it to you.


Oh, go take a trip.

Stoney3K Wrote:

.jaime. Wrote:
I need to find a serious nerd whose ego isn't threatened by my nonsense. What is the natural habitat of this rare creature? Reference only libraries? The ice cream aisle at Tesco's?  


Try Stargate conventions. You should have those plenty in the Vancouver area... or why not drop by the studios while you're at it. Plenty of geeks there in the VFX department (wonder why they haven't registered on AFF Smile)


Hmm, I thought she currently resided in London?

Ian Wrote:
It's what Jaime called me in another thread ;p she claimed she liked "jailbait"

You're good looking, but I am old enough to be your mother. The thought that I'm old enough to be a grown man's mother just boggles my mind.

I guess there isn't much of an audience for the manic depressives who can't help but express their inner turmoil.

It's alright, everywhere i've been, I'm always the one who's "skipped over."  Dammit.

alectrum Wrote:
Awww.  That's nice Guesswho.  I can't understand why you haven't got a woman, because that's a really romantic attitude.

I could fancy quite a few people here (in many different ways) if I didn't already have a husbandSmile  When I was free and single I think I intimidated a lot of men unfortunately, especially when I was blonde...(I'm a natural blonde - I dye my hair black).  People used to ask me "where do you come from?" - and I'd say "from here!"


I guess you choose not to comfort me.  And why, I don't know.

Meega Na La Queesta Wrote:
I find garmonbozia quite intriguing.....(blushes) Smile


Thanks.  Likewise, you seem very interesting.  Smile

Thanks, it looks like I've finally got some kind of attention in this thread.  Wink

Max the Bear Wrote:

tenaciouscj Wrote:
I don't know a lot of guys here too well but Quickduck and Rossco are very friendly and interesting. I also like a lot of Max's posts.


Ha -- and those are two of my favorite people here -- although, of course, when the subject of porn comes up Rossco really does have to be put on an intravenous gorilla-sedative and packed in ice.

Something that strikes me -- and this is, I think, a very good thing -- is that i see many cases on this list where, behind the scenes, A may dislike B and B may dislike A, but C just loves both A and B. I think that's so cool!

This would be very unlikely to happen at an NT forum.

It suggests to me that at AFF, when A IM's C with a boatload of character assassination and says, "Oh, B is just so horrible and I hate him, please help me be hateful toward him", C instead relies on his own experience with B rather than joining in on A's little "let's you and me hate him game."

Aspie Virtue in blossom. Big Grin


I think I have provided an example of this lately, I think you know what I mean, Max.

Emmy Wrote:
Tack så mycke elsklingBig Grin


What language is that in?

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