Aspies For Freedom

As in real life some people appeal as friends but nothing more.

I don't have any crushes, but I've always thought Green0horse's photo in his sig was cute.

I think most people prefer dinner about 8PM in a nice restaurant and then drinks in the bar.

If someone has a crush on you they tend to work out where you will be at any given time and they will make sure they are there at the same time. They will constantly try to impress you. It will probably get annoying if you are not interested in them. If you are then you go out with them. What harm can it do?

Bob, you look OK. Maybe change your clothes. Your personality is not to bad either. Girls like nice, but matched with some determination and self respect. Just learn to be your own best friend. You have to be prepared to take risks. you say you are ready for rejection, so take some risks.

OK. I was only trying to help. I clearly can't. I'll keep my views to myself from now on.

You were onto nothing. You only know the answer because I gave it to you.

I only worry a little bit about clothes. For some odd reason, it seems as if the high-maintenance people are the ones who get the partners (I don't know how long they keep them though).

Comfort is paramount, so I never wear high heels or tight shoes or hot and tight clothes.

Bob, I didn't think anything was wrong with your appearance. The only trouble is, I'm nearly old enough to be your mum.

What a coincidence, I have a crush on both of you!    

Woman from Mars: I'm a woman too... guess you haven't seen my other threads where I go on and on and on about being a mother.

Note: my crushes are asexual... but because most people joke around and/or view crushes with some sort of romantic/sexual entanglement, I generally don't reveal them as such.  In this case, I just had to give in and admit it though. *hehe* (so yes, I was being serious. )

Dealing with manipulators and charmers was an orgy of hate?   I certainly never meant it to be one... I was trying to figure out how to deal with those who hate in a way that deflects the hate without engaging and creating more hate.  I thought we successfully worked through a lot of useful ideas in there... perhaps I was wrong.

Oh my! It doesn't sound like you need another person crushing on you! *L*

What do you mean? In what regard?

Really? You enjoyed it despite thinking it was a hate orgy? Hmmm...  

And actually, I did get what I was looking for... some ideas of what to do, which I applied and they seemed to work.

What did you think I was looking for that I didn't get?

*heheh* clever.

Well, to most people that 'drawn to' means romantic or sexual interest. *L* I'm just saying that the way I personally see my crushes is that I am drawn to a person and feel good emotions about them...  admiration, enjoyment and wanting to get to know them better. The stronger the emotions the bigger the crush.  

For most people I enjoy I still feel very neutral in regards to investing time and energy in getting to know them better, so when I feel something switch on my interest I tend to call that a 'crush'.  After a few difficult lessons on the matter I learned that not everyone I crush on shares my crushes with me, so I've learned to back off and wait for mutual interest - if it should come. If not, I can still enjoy and admire from afar.