Aspies For Freedom

I don't think a therapist is under any obligation to be capable of diagnosing you with anything, especially not something so specific as a developmental disorder.

If I were you I'd either ask your doctor for a referral or check out local ASD groups (even parent groups) on the Internet and Email a few of them to ask whether they know anyone in your area who could assess you.

However it seems to me your low self esteem is what is really bothering you, and while insight into what may be causing your problems would help, you need someone to help you snap out of this destructive negative thinking, and a therapist is the person to do that.

I asked you not to reply in my threads anymore.

What is so hard to understand about that?

Do I need to repeat it?

Or should I suggest that McDonald's can always use another toilet scrubber, and someone who likes "nitty-gritty life" would excel--perhaps one like you?

You can give your opinion, but I have asked you before not to give your opinion in *my* threads.

I can't think of any reason why I would ever want to post anything in one of your threads, so why not just follow the "keep out" sign?

I've never had any goals for therapy.  I just want to find a niche, something I can do fairly well and make a little money with, and improve over time.

AFAIK a lot of Aspies, especially the more socially troubled ones, have found a "niche" and eventually manage to do quite well.

I feel I need this approach because everything I've tried to help me be a social animal--medication, therapy, counseling, has not worked.  I am not able to "one of the crowd."

I hate the acting involved and it overwhelms me.

I understand your request but I deicded that I would ignore it and continue to do what I like.

You can suggest what you like Batman and i'll bear it in mind for the future but at the moment I already have a job.

Good point.  I really would prefer not to have any qualms with any of you guys on this forum, that includes you chergh.  You have some good things to contribute sometimes, but the bottom line is not that I'm not very receptive to your "blunt" kind of advice, and I hope you will respect that, despite this being a public forum.

Everyone has their own conquests to make, their own individual problems to work on, and while there may be some similarities between you and me since we're Aspie... it still appears you are quite different from me some key ways, and I not able to understand your point of view that well, nor you mine.

For the future, I think it may be best to "agree to disagree" since it is apparent that stubborn people (me, and you in some ways) usually don't get along well.

I screwed that up a bit.. the corrections are in bold.  Sorry, but I guess I have to proofread more often.

I do hope you manage that, and I guess diagnosis does help because it means you really *know* rather than suspect (which can often be biased), and it helps many aqccept themselves better.

Certainly for me, the social bis never really bothered me that much but they did sometimes, and the executive functioning problems bothered me too, and learning to accept that I really do work different has helped me change my expectations and adapt my self-help strategies accordingly.

For example I have stopped expecting myself to remember all these different things I have to do, I have stopped trying to stick to a schedule (because if my brain is not in the right mode I *can't* force myself) and have changed to using visual cues for a lot of things, and I have a phone which can be used as a calendar/task list which REMINDS me to do things because I am soooo good at making elaborate plans and schedules, and then promptly forget all about them & never looking at them or even remembering them.