Aspies For Freedom

I'm an NT who is friends with an AS. We are also coworkers. He has never told me he is AS but I believe he is, due to everything I have read on these forums and elsewhere online. He is an incredible, kind person with whom I feel a deep connection, deeper than I have with most people. Lately I have been "falling in love" with him. But I don't know how he feels about me. He appears to have, at the very least, interest in me - he remembers  interactions, conversations, and things about me in such great detail that surprises and amazes me. He puts a lot of energy and time into making presents for me. But because I cannot read his face (or his eyes, as he rarely makes eye contact), and because he isn't physically affectionate or forward like I'm used to when guys express romantic interest in me, I cannot be sure.

I don't want to be aggressive. Perhaps he is just content interacting with me only at work, and wouldn't want to pursue anything outside of that. But I can't stop thinking about him, and wondering if maybe there is something I could do to pursue a relationship with him outside of work.

Does anybody have any advice for me?

I think you should just ask him whether he wants to be more than just friends. If not, continue being friends. The direct approach generally works best!

Just ask him out to the cinema, meal, bowling or something. See how you get on outside of work socially before embarking on a relationship, chances are the relationship and romance will happen in these situations if it is right for you.

That sounds a good plan, see if you get on outside of work just as well as you dow hen you work together.

Thank you all for replying. I think I will ask him to hang out outside of work, and see where it goes from there.