A lot of people ask me that same question too. I'm feminine, so my personality and interests are different, so it makes people think that I'm more of a girl than a guy (which I don't mind hearing). But, yeah that lady should have minded her own business.
Ugh! I hope you threw something heavy at her head.
Yeah, it sounds like she's the one with the problem...
<hugs>
Athie
Wow, what a horrible woman! She was probably frustrated and just looking for a convenient target. It was quite uncalled of her to ask all those personal questions and there is no obligation to give any answer except either "I prefer to keep my personal life separate to my work life" or "why do you want to know" or even "how is it your business?".
I was the target of similar psycho questions from other women and girls and didn't realise I could tell them some things were none of their business. What this person said would come under "workplace harassment". People are not allowed to discriminate on the basic of marital status/sexual orientation/household situation and so on.
Some people would actually say it is canny to live with one's parents as it means it is possible to save money.
Yeah! You certainly are a REAL Man
... but maybe your personality is alien to some senile ppl (this is an offense song)
*examines Michal's genes*
X... Y... Yep, you're a man.
(In other words, being a man is a fact. What it means to you is opinion. And people have no right to try to tell you you're "not a real man" just because you're who you are.)
There seems to be a connection between the 'Male brain theory and women' thread and the 'Am I a real man?' thread (an interweaving of threads as it were).
They both appear to deal with gender issues:
Some aspie women on the 'Male brain theory and women' thread have suggested that because they're 'not stereotypically female' and 'always wear flat shoes and very rarely wear make-up' they're somehow less feminine than average.
While on the 'Am I a real man?' thread an aspie man suggests that people perceive him as less masculine than average, because of not having a girlfriend and living with his parents.
As an aspie male I can relate to this. Even up until the birth of my first child my brother says he thought I was gay. At school I was called gay, as a bullying tactic. (As it happens I'm not:- but even if I were I wouldn’t see being called gay as particularly insulting). But I've never really been interested in the usual male activities like football and cars.
Interestingly enough there does appear to be some crossover of masculine and feminine characteristics among the aspies of this website. The AFF guys appear to be more introspective and sensitive than average. While the women are interested in science and technology (traditionally male obsessions).
This undermines the 'male brain theory' for Aspergers. There appears to be more of a blending of male-female gender traits rather than a heightening of male traits as is suggested by this theory.
Perhaps its time we redefined what it means to male and female. Maybe this blending of gender traits means that male and female aspies can actually cooperate and meet each other as equals (in a way NTs cannot)
An end to 'the battle of the sexes?'
Michael1…that women had no right to comment on your personal life. She's the one with the problem not you.
Some people can bring meaness to such a fine art that the greatest stage performers in the world could go uncontious. Some bullies really have awsome skill when it comes to being stupid and mean at the same time.
I have been there many times.
How is it not very hard to hold back your natural defense mode against a talented verbal assault? What I truely hate very deeply, is that some bullies will be mean to someone till they literaly loose their ability to hold their naturaly defenses. Then the original victim gets jailed, fired, shot, or whatever horrible thing they dont really diserve, all because some demon in human skin decided to have fun with them. I really, really hate that, and I hope you're not having to go through something that unbearable.
I never had the chance in adulthood to beat a verbal attacker, thank goodness. Some other people have been forced to endure all of that and more, sadly.
On an unrelated matter:
I really like your colourful use of language Lienda Balla. You have a talent for conveying emotion with style and sensitivity.
On an unrelated matter:
I really like your colourful use of language Lienda Balla. You have a talent for conveying emotion with style and sensitivity.
ok. Thank you.
Human civilization exists for thousands years, and morally and spiritually hasn't progressed a lot since its very beginning. I am very much affraid I sound pathetic, but the truth is that we hasn't found the God yet and He didn't say yet that our way is the only good way. Money is not a God. We live in a money world, you are right, and few of us live with the God.
I cannot possibly imagine what it is like to live in a world, ruled by people with different type of psychics. I am an NT living in NT world. But I would like to ask you to not trust us when we are mistaken. Forgive us for not knowing. You were brave enough to disclose your doubt in yourself, and not every NT man can do it.
It seems more like you were agreeing with green0horse rather than dissagreeing. Couldn't the dollar be considered some sort of Idol? After all, it's the image of the greed's influence isn't it? And, greed has caused alot of people to do very stupid, or riskey things.
In my oppinion, social needs are a desire for some form of emotional affection that lacks in some area. That need is so stitched into many societies that it's a 'must do it or else you are stupid, rude, or ill" concept.
Sheesh, I need to learn to stop my self hitting impulses. -.- Aren't I just a little hypocrate.
Michael 1, this woman is probably a nag and that is why her husband would stay away. Then again, maybe if he stayed around more often, she wouldn't make such bitchy comments to you. I'm happy to see that she has said she will stop bullying you too.
Michael 1, good on you for realising the true issues and I wish you all the best in finding a job that you will enjoy better.
Whenever someone denies someone's sexual identity you will notice two things. First, their definition of a "true man" is whatever is most convenient to their own interests. For example, a lazy wife who wants free luxury and status will define as a real man a husband who buys her diamonds and sports cars. The factory owner who does not want to install prpoer safety equipment in his factory will define a real man as an employee who takes pride in not needing protection from poisonous chemicals or machines that chop off fingers (or worse). The instant someone uses the concept of "real man" she disproves her credibility and integrity because the concept is nothing more than an attempted manipulation to get her own way and all her opinions should be dismissed as nothing more than self serving. Second, the self serving demands of what a man must emulate to be called a man do not apply to women. These demands are implicitly presented as some sort of moral virtue, but unless a morality applies evenly to everybody, it contradicts itself. Therefore, "manhood" as a virtue is nothing more than invalid and worthless drivel. This should be explained to that woman.