You seem to be familiar with the traits, and the wide-ranging traits, that some Aspies have.
You yourself have confirmed others on this board as "seeming very Aspie."
Can you look at my thread: "New here--immaturity, or AS?" and tell me what you think?
I will tell you right now that I don't take things apart and put them back together, I don't have math or science interests, I don't have major stims (although I noticed when I started Paxil, a lot of stims went away).
Mayhaps there's a category: there's Aspies who fall easily into Math/Computers, others who fall into Music, and some who fit the "Creative arty" category? I would fit into the last one.
But, I'd like you to read my thread (and my replies in that thread) and tell me what you think.
It may be that I have the "highest functioning" kind which is mostly invisible, but because I have ADD and some OCD, I sucked so bad at school that my case appears worse than it really is.
I hope I'll fit in here, whether or not you folks think I have it, or not.
I did score appropriately on the two common Aspie quizes, however.
You know, you could have PM'ed me.
If you don't know how to do that, click on my name and my profile should appear. Then click on send me a message.
I will have a look at it in a while for you!
I don't consider myself an expert on anything, and the only thing I can give you is an opinion made through all the knowledge I have from researching about AS whilst I was making my own self-diagnosis, and all the knowledge I have obtained after getting my official diagnosis. I have only been researching it for about 6 months (albeit obssesively) and most of it has come from this site. So whatever you do take my opinion with a 'pinch of salt'.
You know, you could have PM'ed me.
If you don't know how to do that, click on my name and my profile should appear. Then click on send me a message.
I will have a look at it in a while for you!
I don't consider myself an expert on anything, and the only thing I can give you is an opinion made through all the knowledge I have from researching about AS whilst I was making my own self-diagnosis, and all the knowledge I have obtained after getting my official diagnosis. I have only been researching it for about 6 months (albeit obssesively) and most of it has come from this site. So whatever you do take my opinion with a 'pinch of salt'.
Sorry, but I (like you) have become extremely obsessed with Asperger's just recently, and going over self-diagnosis possibilities, and the traits of it in my family. So maybe I was overexcited when I wrote that message, and forgot about the PM thing.
Another worthwhile update: Now, my brother is about to possibly take action, and go to a specialist to see if he meets the AS criteria.
He's 30 years old and all he did most of his life was sit in front of a computer, talk about tech/gadgets, take things apart and clean them (and then put them back together), watch movies, and spend a lot of time in solitude. He also has a *lot* of peculiar habits, which I might realize now as stims. He tends to click pens and take them apart, sometimes while engaged in a conversation.
I'm the same way except I'm 25 and I'm not into tech/gadgets half as much as he is. I'm much more focused on pop-culture and art, and I'm more socially conscious than he is. I'm the one who *could* be out among girls, if I could figure out how to read social cues a little better. Women are very tricky with that, because they're multitaskers to begin with. Most AS folks can't multitask.
He just voiced the opinion that my therapist, who told me I was incredibly immature because of my lack of adult responsibilities, was way out of line.
Instead, he says my therapist should have *mentioned* Asperger's instead of keeping it to himself.
My therapist is a stubborn pragmatist. How many Aspies could benefit from *that* kind of therapy?
Sheesh.
Not very many could benefit from the kind of "therapy" you got. The guy seems not to have a clue about how to deal with aspie people.
I have to wonder what some of these so-called therapists are doing in the field in the first place. If they get such a kick out of denying people the diagnoses that fit them, bragging about how they "don't believe in ADHD/AS/whatever," and dispensing judgmental, "tough love"-type advice with no regard for the individual personalities of their clients, why don't they become motivational speakers?
*loves the little potato-head emoticons but wishes there were an angry one*
I think a lot of this "tough love" is just another word for emotional sadism and arrogance.
I think a lot of this "tough love" is just another word for emotional sadism and arrogance.
I could not agree with you more. And I think "tough love" is also highly correlated with immaturity, far be it from the label of immaturity these people slap on *us*!
They need only look in the mirror, if they want to find a patient who lacks maturity.
I have to wonder what some of these so-called therapists are doing in the field in the first place. If they get such a kick out of denying people the diagnoses that fit them, bragging about how they "don't believe in ADHD/AS/whatever," and dispensing judgmental, "tough love"-type advice with no regard for the individual personalities of their clients, why don't they become motivational speakers?
*loves the little potato-head emoticons but wishes there were an angry one*
Indeed. I seemed to detect from him (since I'm male), "If you're not a man by now, then you must be immature."
Because he was a man. A great man with great pride. And I wasn't. So then, it was his job to toss me into the "little-kiddy box."
And it's a man's job to slap insensitive labels on those men who aren't men. *That's* a man!
Nah, that's a w@nker. Is there any possibility you could get a referral to a different therapist.