Aspies For Freedom

I'm not very confrontational.

For years I would go out of my way to avoid confrontation. I didn't stick up for myself; Or even engage with other people's arguments.

But I know now, that sometimes confrontation is unavoidable (not everyone can like me). And some people (with their own prejudices) will discriminate against me. This has led me to be more confrontational (to stick up for myself) when necessary.

But I don’t think aspies are usually confrontational without good cause (so saying people with AS are confrontational is (in my opinion) wrong…whether its in a book or not).

i dunno how to answer this really, I tend to walk away when I don't agree with something but if I stay and argue i suppose I do get confrontational. It depends on the person and the circumstances, i do get very abusive though.

IN NORWAY WE ARE ALL RUDE!

I like to discuss more than other people however.

Confrontational - Yes if I'm in a bad mood.

Rude - Yes if I'm in a bad mood.

I agree with that, it's afterwards when I sit back and think of what I just said or how it must sound I realise it's wrong. that's why I sometimes prefer not to say anything.

I could be confrontational if something irritates me enough and/or I feel very strongly about an issue. I only intend to be rude when somebody is rude to me first, but I am probably unintentionally rude sometimes eg. by not speaking to people when they think I should.

I often don't really feel like speaking, not because I dislike the other people, but just because I can't think of anything worthwhile to say or because I can't get into the conversation.

I also get sick of it when I talk about something interesting and people either just stare at me or don't respond so when that happens, I think it's not worth bothering any more. But if other people are interested in what I have to say, I can talk quite a lot.

This may sound weird, but I almost never make small talk with my family members. They are all older than me, and all we talk about, basically, is what we should do with our lives (includes lots of critisism and bossiness, which is annoying). We never really discuss our interests or weekend activities. It seems like all mom wants out of everyone each weekend is to share their parts in housecleaning. I don't like making casual converstaions with my family. It just doesn't seem right. They know what's going on with me. I don't need to verbally tell them. I love my family, but they're all too awkward for me to socialise with, because nobody has anything in common with me.

Friends, on the other hand, want to know what I'm all about. They want to know what I am like and what I do over vaccations. Yet I never really have anything interesting to tell them about weekends. I usually say, "Well, once again, I had to hear my mom yelling at my brother and constantly complain about the messy house. I was just minding my own buisiness on the computer. I hate weekends, and I'd actually much rather go to school." They give me the look of (but don't actually say) "wow! I never knew some people could actually like school. But yeah, I understand, your weekends do sound sucky."

In every topic, there are good books and there are bad ones. Someone made a 'don't read these' book list somewhere. I thought that was so clever. A list of the books they thought were not worth the reading.

ichtms, yeah I like clouds and have taken lots of photos of clouds and sunsets. I will post some in the art section once I get properly organised. Do you like clouds.

Max The Bear, your comments are just brilliant and I suppose that is the sort of reaction these people would have to a suggestion that they might want to see a rare bird. Some people are just philistines!

I liked field trips, even when there was a lot of mud and dirt.

Getting drunk and puking and getting felt up by letches was never my idea of fun. It seems to be the less intelligent and more shallow people who are into that kind of scene.

Natalie, btw I must post my pictures of the leafytail caterpillar. I used to collect them as a child and never found out what their real name was. The pictures are about 20 years old and a bit blurry as I didn't have a good camera for close-ups but their tail looked just like a small leaf.

Most of the tiny caterpillars were reddish brown, the same colour as the young leaves they ate but when they got bigger, most went green. I saw some brown ones though and one that yellow and red like an autumn leaf.

I think they turned into a butterfly with black wings and blue and white spots.

I haven't heard the word "confrontational" as a personality describer before, but I suppose you could say I am...

I tend to be very argumentative. In factual disagreements, I tend to be right more often than not, and thus I usually press my point. In addition, I have strong urges to correct all inaccuracies, whether coming from me or someone else.

Sometimes something upsets me and I leave the room. I have recently learned that this is considered very rude and confrontational; but it's really just me in overload.

Nope, at least not consciously (I may occasionally say things that sound like I am trying to nag or confront but usually people then have to explain to me why they think I am doing so).